Hey bloggers, So as some of you may know this blog is about my random thoughts,experiences etc and recently I have been thinking about the term “Friends Forever” and the validity of that saying. Are friends really forever ? I’m not quite sure anymore. One simple question . . Are you as close as you were with your bestest best friend from primary school ?. I know I’m not , in fact I’m not as close with my friends from comprehensive school.
The term Best Friend is a term which I never use. I despise it! Why call a friend (Or a number of friends) you’re best friend ?. Do you have worst friends ? If they’re in the worst category surely that means they are not a friend at all. Sure I have close friends in which I speak to on a daily basis and we swap our problems but I wouldn’t call her a best friend. Why should I label my friends into categories ? I just don’t like it but I think this is just a matter of opinion.
So what has brought this question to my mind ? I know most of us aren’t best friends with our primary school friends. LIFE , most people think of life and think “I want to get married and have a family” and rightly so they think that most us of do, don’t we ?. The teen years are the years where you mostly hang around your friends and go out etc until you find your boyfriend/girlfriend and that is where my question comes in. In the past as many of you, if not all have experienced have had friends who started getting in a relationship and you just see less and less of them as time goes by. Understandably if they love each other they wish to spend as much time together as possible and that’s where some friendships end. A Number of years ago I had this friend who got a girlfriend and he literally just vanished off the face of the world. They broke up every couple of months for just 3 or 4 days and during those days I had my friend back but it did get quite tiring. The constant fights and at the end of the day the friendship was one-sided. I was there for him but when I needed someone where was he ?. Anyway as time went on one night he asked me to go out for a drink (this time however they were NOT on a break) so I asked him,as I was already quite annoyed with him for basically forgetting about me apart when it suited him. Are you not out with your girlfriend tonight ? and his answer was just No,Why do you think I’m asking you ? …. Errm.. Sorry what ? That did it for me! I got so annoyed,obviously I didn’t go out that night nor was I there for him when they kept breaking up. Did I do the right thing ? Shouldn’t we be there for our friends no matter what ? ….But shouldn’t they think that question themselves ? I always say it takes 2!… As years have gone by more and more friends have obviously gotten in a routine with their partners and obviously have no time for there used to be “best friend”.
Recently my closest friend whom I speak to daily and go on holidays together, we basically get along like a married couple but in a friendship. Before you think to yourselves “Do you like her”? …NO! lol Well I do like her but as a sister,we are that close.Well this friend has recently started seeing someone and I’m just thinking the plans we had on going to travel here and there…Are they still going to happen? We literally were saying ” we are single and we make the most of it live life etc” however now that she’s seeing someone this all may change. Let me just add that I approved the guy she is seeing and I told her that he is literally the male version of her, so nice and innocent and to be honest she does deserve a nice guy like him to treat her well!. Now I’m in like a paralysed thought of Am I going to lose her ? , Are things going to change ? Am I being selfish for thinking this ? and this is why the whole term of “Friends
Forever“ crossed my mind and made me question it.
Do we all not eventually move away from our friends and into relationships ? At a young age this is the goal for most people as it is what society imprints on us. So are friends really forever? My answer is pure and simple. No. You may continue to chat here and there but things change,situations change and you won’t be as close as you once were and just because of that fact I also find it hard to trust my friends. Not only do I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone and everybody’s business but if friends move on can you still trust that you’re deepest secrets and thoughts will not be shared? I just think Hmm..Only person I can trust is myself really as the saying from the T.V series Pretty Little Liars goes ” Only 2 can keep a secret if 1 of them is dead” . Drastic but in my opinion true.
Well I would LOVE to hear your thoughts on this topic and maybe it will help me better myself. Please Like,Comment and Share 🙂
Have a nice day 😉 XxX
Let me just say Congrats for surviving this “doomsday”. Glad to see that we all live another day to tell the tale and we can carry on with our lives. Wonder how the extremists are feeling at this moment in time. Annoyed because their belief of the end was wrong or relieved because they are still alive, mixed emotions I suppose. As I mentioned in my previous post I do believe that something huge is going to happen in the world, maybe not today or tomorrow but someday something will change life as we know it. Could it be another World War? or natural disasters we won’t know until that day is here.
Relieved that the 21st December 2012 is over and we survived ? Oh I wouldn’t be because, Yes we didn’t die but nothing has changed and it still is a world where only the fittest will survive. I don’t mean toned abs and bulging biceps but mentally devious and backstabbing. As in this day and age our best friends could just be a simple disguise of our worst enemy. I warn you bloggers and readers trust few but befriend many. Devious plan right? Well after all we all want to survive this cruel world and there’s a lot of people who are set in destroying others and their happiness. I’m a true believer of Karma the way I think of it is “What goes up must come down…eventually and when it does the force of gravity will hit you 10 times worse”. I beg you not to do anything with ill intentions but simply befriend your enemies and love them like any other. Not only are you annoying them even more which may lead them do worse things behind your back but you’re also giving our good friend karma more to add to the delivery package when it returns to sender :).
Now enough of the planning all in all it really is Survival Of The Fittest in more ways than one and you all want to make sure you can run just a bit just in case of a disaster ;).
Sorry if this post is a bit too erm… dark ? but after all I have to post about what I’m truly feeling and hopefully it helps you too.
Hey bloggers ! How are you all enjoying the nice winter ?.
So envy , that’s the topic today :). I’m not talking about the simple day to day “omg I’m jealous of his abs or her hair”. I’m talking about the envy we all have deep inside. Some of us won’t know that the feeling we currently have is indeed envy!. How many of you admit of this envy ? How many of you share it with the world and let the world, SOCIETY judge you upon that remark?. I know i have yet to do that but today I shall change that. I will open up and admit to one of my ” Seven Deadliest Sins “.
TALENT – that is it. That is my envy plain and simple. I’m envious of others talents. Don’t think I’m jealous of EVERYONE who has a talent in singing or drawing and whatever their talent may be. However I’m most envious of those who never tried in school, those who spent more time in detention than in classes and those who were never bothered about school or their education. Those are the ones I’m envious and at times I think why do I not have a talent ?. I honestly don’t think I have any talent and it does get me down. I know if they have a talent it is for a reason and they were given it for a greater purpose but then I think ” well? What is mine then?”. That is purely my deepest envy! I also think what gets me the most is that I did not work towards any talent to perfect it!
So bloggers what is your deepest envy ?
Have a good night – Like – Comment – Share 🙂 x
Hey bloggers, its been quite sometime since I’ve blogged. Its good to take a couple of weeks off so you can go through new experiences that will make your blog just that tiny bit better. Hope you have ALL been well, remember if you need some advice or simply someone to talk to go to my “Contact” page and just send me a little e-mail.
Today’s blog post is about our everyday surroundings. Especially the whole Monday – Friday routine, don’t know about most of you but yes,sadly I have a routine during the week. Everyday starts with WORK. Now I am lucky that I work with two of my closest friends so it does make work more fun at times but at times it’s also a curse in disguise. Spending so much time with someone can put a strain on any relationship. Now,our thoughts,actions and general outcome of the day all depends on our spiritual energy. By this I mean how we feel. Sure we all have bad days,its normal we are human!. Can we prevent some of these days? Simple answer is YES . Speaking from personal experience I have noticed that some of my closest friends carry this negative vibe most of the time. Saying this I must point out that this,by any means this does NOT make them a bad friend or a bad person. Its their look on life’s situations and their reaction which makes them become a negative person. Spend the first couple of hours of your new day with a negative vibe around you and your mind will adapt to it subconsciously. If this happens you will find yourself not dealing with daily situations as easy as it may seem.
One of my closest friends,when i look at her it’s like looking at a rainbow or the sun (Cheesy i know). She is just full of positivity you can tell a mile away. Spending the day with her will lift you’re spirits up,it will give you an energy that you won’t realise where it came from. I deeply believe in vibes,auras and energies,it’s what breaks as down as individuals. Looking at the good side of things will help you as a person and then it will have a positive effect on your life. Also some things that may help at being at peace with yourself are by treating others how you wish to be treated yourself,let go of trying to control people and situations and most importantly try to look at the positive side of things.
So a little task for you all is – When you find yourself in company with a negative vibe try to make it positive. It’s easy,maybe you and your friend are discussing a topic that every conclusion to that topic ends in a negative frame of mind. Try and think and turn it around. Mix more with positive thoughts and the energy will follow.
Have a good day 🙂
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Did I make a mistake ? – Will I learn from it ? – Was there a reason for that to happen how it did ?.
I bet that you have asked yourself those questions at some point, especially when you’re going through a bad patch. Answers are, Yes you made a mistake and yes, you will learn from it. If you go back to one of my earlier posts I do strongly believe in that “Everything Happens For A Reason”. Life truly is like school the only way you learn is by doing it wrong but instead of having a teacher correct your mistakes you,yourself will have to be your life’s own teacher. You will only receive guidance when you’re growing up and from that ,later on in life you will be able to teach yourself when you make an error in life. We are all brought up differently but I hope that we can all tell the difference between what’s right and wrong.
I made a mistake in life around 2 years ago and I was hoping that no one would find out. Stupid of me thinking that as I live in a small place. Don’t worry I didn’t do anything illegal haha. It’s a mistake that I was worried that would make others see me differently. We all know small towns means a lot of gossip and everyone knowing everyone it was bound to get out. I admit to being scared of what the outcome is. What if more people find out ? but all I can do is wait and let nature takes its course I suppose. I believe that everything is happening how it is for a reason. I have big nerves in my stomach when I think about it and I go through these mood swings but I’ll let you know in a little secret – I’m Human. So I will embrace future mistakes,learn from it and hope for the best! as for now I hope this goes by so I can live comfortably again.
Hope you have a good one 🙂