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Friends Forever. . . But Is It True ?

Hey bloggers, So as some of you may know this blog is about my random thoughts,experiences etc and recently I have been thinking about the term “Friends Forever” and the validity of that saying. Are friends really forever ? I’m not quite sure anymore. One simple question . . Are you as close as you were with your bestest best friend from primary school ?. I know I’m not , in fact I’m not as close with my friends from comprehensive school.

The term Best Friend is a term which I never use. I despise it! Why call a friend (Or a number of friends) you’re best friend ?. Do you have worst friends ? If they’re in the worst category surely that means they are not a friend at all. Sure I have close friends in which I speak to on a daily basis and we swap our problems but I wouldn’t call her a best friend. Why should I label my friends into categories ? I just don’t like it but I think this is just a matter of opinion.

So what has brought this question to my mind ? I know most of us aren’t best friends with our primary school friends. LIFE , most people think of life and think “I want to get married and have a family” and rightly so they think that most us of do, don’t we ?. The teen years are the years where you mostly hang around your friends and go out etc until you find your boyfriend/girlfriend and that is where my question comes in. In the past as many of you, if not all have experienced have had friends who started getting in a relationship and you just see less and less of them as time goes by. Understandably if they love each other they wish to spend as much time together as possible and that’s where some friendships end. A Number of years ago I had this friend who got a girlfriend and he literally just vanished off the face of the world. They broke up every couple of months for just 3 or 4 days and during those days I had my friend back but it did get quite tiring. The constant fights and at the end of the day the friendship was one-sided. I was there for him but when I needed someone where was he ?. Anyway as time went on one night he asked me to go out for a drink (this time however they were NOT on a break) so I asked him,as I was already quite annoyed with him for basically forgetting about me apart when it suited him. Are you not out with your girlfriend tonight ? and his answer was just No,Why do you think I’m asking you ? …. Errm.. Sorry what ? That did it for me! I got so annoyed,obviously I didn’t go out that night nor was I there for him when they kept breaking up. Did I do the right thing ? Shouldn’t we be there for our friends no matter what ? ….But shouldn’t they think that question themselves ? I always say it takes 2!… As years have gone by more and more friends have obviously gotten in a routine with their partners and obviously have no time for there used to be “best friend”.

Recently my closest friend whom I speak to daily and go on holidays together, we basically get along like a married couple but in a friendship. Before you think to yourselves “Do you like her”? …NO! lol Well I do like her but as a sister,we are that close.Well this friend has recently started seeing someone and I’m just thinking the plans we had on going to travel here and there…Are they still going to happen? We literally were saying ” we are single and we make the most of it live life etc” however now that she’s seeing someone this all may change. Let me just add that I approved the guy she is seeing and I told her that he is literally the male version of her, so nice and innocent and to be honest she does deserve a nice guy like him to treat her well!. Now I’m in like a paralysed thought of Am I going to lose her ? , Are things going to change ? Am I being selfish for thinking this ? and this is why the whole term of “Friends Forever crossed my mind and made me question it.

Do we all not eventually move away from our friends and into relationships ? At a young age this is the goal for most people as it is what society imprints on us. So are friends really forever?  My answer is pure and simple. No. You may continue to chat here and there but things change,situations change and you won’t be as close as you once were and just because of that fact I also find it hard to trust my friends. Not only do I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone and everybody’s business but if friends move on can you still trust that you’re deepest secrets and thoughts will not be shared? I just think Hmm..Only person I can trust is myself really as the saying from the T.V series Pretty Little Liars goes ” Only 2 can keep a secret if 1 of them is dead” . Drastic but in my opinion true.

Well I would LOVE to hear your thoughts on this topic and maybe it will help me better myself. Please Like,Comment and Share 🙂

Have a nice day 😉 XxX

Are We ALL Becoming Attention Seekers ? – My Thoughts !

Hey bloggers, I know it’s been a while and I have had this topic at the back of my mind for a couple of weeks now. 10 Years ago I suppose society was VERY different as to what it is today. Attention seekers worked harder to get their attention and noticed and fewer people wanted to be noticed. Do we realise that we are becoming attention seekers? I mean 10 years ago how would you grab someone’s attention without posting anything on any social network sites.

 

Are you an attention seeker? – I think we all are in one way or another. How many of you have Facebook or Twitter? Most if not all I’m sure and some of you will probably use other social networking sites like Tumbler etc. These social networking sites are designed in a way that makes us want to get noticed. On Facebook for example we “update our status” with the intentions for others to read it and later “Like” or Comment. Every day we post (Myself including) the little things everyone does in everyday life, things like the food we eat or what we drink on Facebook just so people will see and know what you’re doing. On Twitter I find people are more open (Myself Included) and people tend to share deeper thoughts even those that when posted on facebook may get a negative feedback.

 

Do we paint this pretty picture on Facebook? – I think most of us paint this mirage of ourselves on Facebook. We all want to be accepted by the majority of society so we post what we think will be “Liked” and accepted by others and with the hope that we will be, in return liked more by others and become that slightly more popular. I think we all post just what we want others to see obviously that is why we control it right? But don’t we all have darker thoughts? Not so nice thoughts that should be shared. After all Facebook does ask “What’s On Your Mind”, On many occasions I have posted an update saying “ Facebook keeps on asking me “What’s on my mind” but I’m scared if I post I will shock a lot of people!” Which I’m sure I will. At the end of the day we all seek acceptance by others and I think Social Networking sites like the ones I mentioned earlier play a bit part in it all. Maybe we don’t all realise it but I think it is getting worse. I am too a victim of this but a couple of weeks ago I was having a discussion with a friend who they claim they “don’t care what others think” So I pointed this out, we all use the edit features for the pictures, we all act as if we have this perfect life on facebook but behind that screen many of us have more insecurities than what we may know we have! Problem is, if we paint this picture too big how can we live up to it?

Hope I haven’t rumbles too much on this, Let me know your thoughts no matter how good or bad:) if you like please Like, Share & Comment!

 

Have a nice day 🙂

Mothers Day :)

Hey bloggers 🙂 So today is Mothering Sunday (A.K.A. Mothers Day)…As you all know it’s the fourth Sunday of lent……Just kidding I was actually reminded that it was this Sunday like 4 days ago?. I knew it was in March just forgot it was so early on!.

A little paragraph dedicated to my mum and why she (as many other mothers) deserve this day.! My mum has always taken care of people all of her life,from an early age she helped my uncles and aunties get ready for school and even started working at an early age. She has basically been working all of her life before she got unwell but even at the beginning of her not feeling so well which was when my father left she had to work extra hard to support me and my sisters and not to mention the debt my father had left behind. My mum has been more than just a mum but a dad and a friend there to put a smile on your face during those bad days. She has never really treated herself to anything as money went towards bills and food, never did she spent any money on clothes for herself or the latest mobile or gadget. So when people say “why do mothers deserve a day just for them?” I will tell them this and more. One day where they shouldn’t cook or clean,one day where they should feel special!. A couple of years ago we were going through a bad time and I just made her a personal video which I planned to give to her on Mothers day but then I also thought why wait for that special day?. If you want to express something don’t wait for a special day to do it, you can make any day special. I’m actually glad that I showed her on an ordinary day because she did not expect it and her reaction for me was absolutely priceless!!

So Mothers Day 2013 – I have bought my mum Yankee Candles (If you don’t know what they are click on the name it will take you to their website,they are these AMAZING candles. They aren’t cheap but they really do smell nice) my mum is actually obsessed with them. Not quite sure if the website will ship to where you live,I had  to buy them at a local shop (I don’t live in the UK despite the UK website lol). Also got my mum a clock which says MUM oh and last but not least, I was actually quite shocked to see this… A Mothers Day card on behalf from a DOG! YES!!! So I also got her a card on behalf of Chico with a little
key ring with a westie on it. To see who my dog is just click on the name Chico and it will  re-direct you to my earlier post :). My sisters and I are also going to take her out for a nice Sunday roast which also happens to be her favourite meal.

So bloggers what have you done for your mothers on this special day ? Leave a little comment underneath and do share :).

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Have a nice day – spoil your mothers 😉 x x

We survived but the fight is not over ….

Let me just say Congrats for surviving this “doomsday”. Glad to see that we all live another day to tell the tale and we can carry on with our lives. Wonder how the extremists are feeling at this moment in time. Annoyed because their belief of the end was wrong or relieved because they are still alive, mixed emotions I suppose. As I mentioned in my previous post I do believe that something huge is going to happen in the world, maybe not  today or tomorrow but someday something will change life as we know it. Could it be another World War? or natural disasters we won’t know until that day is here.

Be Prepared & Act Well.Relieved that the 21st December 2012 is over and we survived ? Oh I wouldn’t be because, Yes we didn’t die but nothing has changed and it still is a world where only the fittest will survive. I don’t mean toned abs and bulging biceps but mentally devious and backstabbing. As in this day and age our best friends could just be a simple disguise of our worst enemy. I warn you bloggers and readers trust few but befriend many. Devious plan right? Well after all we all want to survive this cruel world and there’s a lot of people who are set in destroying others and their happiness. I’m a true believer of Karma the way I think of it is “What goes up must come down…eventually and when it does the force of gravity will hit you 10 times worse”. I beg you not to do anything with ill intentions but simply befriend your enemies and love them like any other. Not only are you annoying them even more which may lead them do worse things behind your back but you’re also giving our good friend karma more to add to the delivery package when it returns to sender :).

Now enough of the planning all in all it really is Survival Of The Fittest in more ways than one and you all want to make sure you can run just a bit just in case of a disaster ;).

Sorry if this post is a bit too erm… dark ? but after all I have to post about what I’m truly feeling and hopefully it helps you too.

 

 

Have a nice evening 🙂 Xx

Envy !

Hey bloggers ! How are you all enjoying the nice winter ?.

So envy , that’s the topic today :). I’m not talking about the simple day to day “omg I’m jealous of his abs or her hair”. I’m talking about the envy we all have deep inside. Some of us won’t know that the feeling we currently have is indeed envy!. How many of you admit of this envy ? How many of you share it with the world and let the world, SOCIETY judge you upon that remark?. I know i have yet to do that but today I shall change that. I will open up and admit to one of my ” Seven Deadliest Sins “.

TALENT – that is it. That is my envy plain and simple. I’m envious of others talents. Don’t think I’m jealous of EVERYONE who has a talent in singing or drawing and whatever their talent may be. However I’m most envious of those who never tried in school, those who spent more time in detention than in classes and those who were never bothered about school or their education. Those are the ones I’m envious and at times I think why do I not have a talent ?. I honestly don’t think I have any talent and it does get me down. I know if they have a talent it is for a reason and they were given it for a greater purpose but then I think ” well? What is mine then?”. That is purely my deepest envy! I also think what gets me the most is that I did not work towards any talent to perfect it!

So bloggers what is your deepest envy ?

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Don’t Regret It, Don’t Question It – Accept & Learn.

Happy Monday bloggers! Can you call Monday happy? lol unless it’s a bank holiday!. Hope you all had a nice weekend!.

I sometimes feel like an advice guru with my friends.  Not saying that I’m the best at giving advice but I seem to be the one to go to these days and I don’t mind that at all. If I can help a friend in need then that’s why I’m here. After all friends are here to help take some stress off one another,a shoulder to cry on and most importantly fun to be around. Anyway I do learn a lot listening to different problems and the different situations. Some people do get themselves in quite the situation and sometimes I feel as they couldn’t have made a bigger mistake however I never judge their actions but I do try to calm them down and tell them that in the future all this happened to contribute to a bigger picture. This is what I wanted to blog about today, I just want everyone to know that it is Okay to make a mistake and to repeat that mistake a couple of times if its needed  but don’t stay stuck with the “What If’s”, Just move on and depend on your friends to help you move forward. If there’s something I believe in its this. Every bad choice you make in life,every wrong turn you make,every fight and every friendship , there is for a reason for it. How would we know how to differentiate between a good and bad friend if we had not trusted someone whom we shouldn’t have ? How would we not know NOT to do that same action again if we hadn’t done it before?. Especially with friendships,I am sure that most of you think “I wish I had never met him/her”. Stop there, think at one point you must have had fun ? and most importantly did that friendship introduce you to better friends today?. Ask yourself questions TODAY,not questions on what happened yesterday but what and who is in your life today and who you think will be in your life tomorrow.

It’s all in the posts title “Don’t Regret It,Don’t Question It but Accept & Learn from it”. Don’t fight fate,embrace it and by that you will let happiness enter your life and soon you will realise that the bad choices or mistakes that had once took over your mind was nothing but a small glitch along the way to your happiness today. 🙂

Thank you for reading bloggers 🙂 Feel free to Like,Comment or Share 😀 x

Social Labels

So I know I’ve written about stereotypes before in my blog. I think “Social Labels” is a topic I feel strongly about because it deals so much damage to a person’s mind and self-esteem,however we are all to blame for this because one way or another we all contribute into giving others labels. How you ask ? – Not me ! you say.  Most of us do it unknowingly maybe some sort of natural reaction in our minds?.

How many of you walk down town alone with your music on whilst day dreaming ?. Many of you I imagine, but all of a sudden you see this guy with the tightest pair of pants, make-up on and a fur coat . Most of you, in your head will say “Omg,he’s gay” or the erm “not so nice” people would think ” What a Fa**t”,sadly it does happen. How many of you see a person in McDonald’s having a large meal and that person just happens to look over weight. How many of you think to yourself ” She needs a diet” or any nasty comments you may share with friends or keep to yourself without knowing whether or not this person as an underlining health condition that will not allow her to lose weight. I am also guilty of this from time to time but then I complain when I hear others giving people a label. It infuriates me but am I no better ? Do I not have those thoughts ?. Sure I don’t act on them and I will NEVER laugh at someone’s expense but I think those things at times. Is it normal ? At the end of the day we should control our thoughts. Maybe we  label others in order to feel better about ourselves,boost ourself esteem and confidence.

I Am single, so I am labelled as being Single fair enough, does it stop there ? NO! as most people will carry on as to why they THINK I am still single. Well bloggers here is a little secret of my own that I will share with you on why I am single. I love being single, I do not desire being in a relationship. Why force something when my mind and heart are not asking for it ?. I let everything take its course, I dislike it when you hear people who are “looking” and by looking I mean desperately looking for another half. Sure being interested in someone is nothing wrong ,by far! What I mean here is those who jump from relationship to relationship just for the sake of it. I like my “freedom” and my space. Besides if I were to get into a relationship most of my blog posts would be less interesting (assuming you all find this interesting :)).

The worse label at the moment in today’s society is being called “GAY”. Let me just express how much that kills me inside that in the year we are in people are still being bullied over their sexual orientation . Something that is beyond their control and at the end of the day its a part of who they are. How many teens commit suicide because they can no longer handle the pressure of keeping the secret or because they are being bullied and they suffer in silence. For those of you in this current situation there is a project called the “It Gets Better Project” that I will link at the end of this post. Apart from that if you need anyone to talk to remember my contact page is at the top and feel free to use it!.

My conclusion is – We all hate being labelled! but how many times a day do we label someone without knowing we are doing so ?. Can we try to change this in our lives ? I think so. Keeping those thoughts to yourself and not acting on them will better you as a person and may help others to.

Here is the “It Gets Better” link. http://www.itgetsbetter.org/.

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Don’t Stick Them In !

How many of you listen to music when walking to work or walking anywhere ? – I listen to music every time I  walk anywhere, apart from today. This morning before leaving the house I thought to myself “I’m not going to use my headphones”. To be honest I couldn’t remember the last time I had walked to work without having music blasting in my ears. I think most of us have gone into this bad habit of just “sticking” our headphones in our ears and zooming off wherever we need to go. So today I did different and I discovered something and it got me thinking and I felt bad for not having noticed this before.

Every morning when I walk to work ,I walk through this tunnel and there’s always this middle-aged man playing a harmonica with a little glass in front of him for tips. I never think much of it to be honest just a “beggar”. I never give him a second thought I’m always in a rush to get to work on time.I got to the tunnel and I saw this man as I do everyday playing his harmonica and he actually said bye to me!. At first I thought “Maybe he says it to some random stranger every now and again for some money”, well I walked by again to go home for lunch and again to return to work from lunch and on each occasion when he was there he kept saying bye to me. I was left speechless! This man probably greets me every morning and I just walk past and I ignore him due to the fact that I have been blasting music in my ears ignoring the world around me. So I ask you to try to walk somewhere without your headphones in your ears, listen to the noises that you may have not heard in a while. The result shocked me ,maybe it will to you too.

 

Goodnight Bloggers x

Negative Friends & People

Hey bloggers, its been quite sometime since I’ve blogged. Its good to take a couple of weeks off so you can go through new experiences that will make your blog just that tiny bit better. Hope you have ALL been well, remember if you need some advice or simply someone to talk to go to my “Contact” page and just send me a little e-mail.

Today’s blog  post is about our everyday surroundings. Especially the whole Monday – Friday routine, don’t know about most of you but yes,sadly I have a routine during the week. Everyday starts with WORK. Now I am lucky that I work with two of my closest friends so it does make work more fun at times but at times it’s also a curse in disguise. Spending so much time with someone can put a strain on any relationship. Now,our thoughts,actions and general outcome of the day all depends on our spiritual energy. By this I mean how we feel. Sure we all have  bad days,its normal we are human!. Can we prevent some of these days? Simple answer is YES . Speaking from personal experience I have noticed that some of my closest friends carry this negative vibe most of the time. Saying this I must point out that this,by any means this does NOT make them a bad friend or a bad person. Its their look on life’s situations and their reaction which makes them become a negative person. Spend the first couple of hours of your new day with a negative vibe around you and your mind will adapt to it subconsciously. If this happens you will find yourself not dealing with daily situations as easy as it may seem.

One of my closest friends,when i look at her it’s like looking at a rainbow or the sun (Cheesy i know). She is just full of positivity you can tell a mile away. Spending the day with her will lift you’re spirits up,it will give you an energy that you won’t realise where it came from.  I deeply believe in vibes,auras and energies,it’s what breaks as down as individuals. Looking at the good side of things will help you as a person and then it will have a positive effect on your life. Also some things that may help at being at peace with yourself are by treating others how you wish to be treated yourself,let go of trying to control people and situations and most importantly try to look at the positive side of things.

So a little task for you all is – When you find yourself in company with a negative vibe try to make it positive. It’s easy,maybe you and your friend are discussing a topic that every conclusion to that topic ends in a negative frame of mind. Try and think and turn it around. Mix more with positive thoughts and the energy will follow.

 

Have a good day 🙂

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Lessons Or Mistakes

Did I make a mistake ? – Will I learn from it ? – Was there a reason for that to happen how it did ?.

I bet that you have asked yourself those questions at some point, especially when you’re going through a bad patch. Answers are, Yes you made a mistake and yes, you will learn from it. If you go back to one of my earlier posts I do strongly believe in that “Everything Happens For A  Reason”.  Life truly is like school the only way you learn is by doing it wrong but instead of having a teacher correct your mistakes you,yourself will have to be your life’s own teacher. You will only receive guidance when you’re growing up and from that ,later on in life you will be able to teach yourself when you make an error in life. We are all brought up differently but I hope that we can all tell the difference between what’s right and wrong.

I made a mistake in life around 2 years ago and I was hoping that no one would find out. Stupid of me thinking that as I live in a small place. Don’t worry I didn’t do anything illegal haha. It’s a mistake that I was worried that would make others see me differently. We all know small towns means a lot of gossip and everyone knowing everyone it was bound to get out. I admit to being scared of what the outcome is.  What if more people find out ? but all I can do is wait and let nature takes its course I suppose. I believe that everything is happening how it is for a reason. I have big nerves in my stomach when I think about it and I go through these mood swings but I’ll let you know in a little secret – I’m Human. So I will embrace future mistakes,learn from it and hope for the best! as for now I hope this goes by so I can live comfortably again.

Hope you have a good one 🙂

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