Hey bloggers, So as some of you may know this blog is about my random thoughts,experiences etc and recently I have been thinking about the term “Friends Forever” and the validity of that saying. Are friends really forever ? I’m not quite sure anymore. One simple question . . Are you as close as you were with your bestest best friend from primary school ?. I know I’m not , in fact I’m not as close with my friends from comprehensive school.
The term Best Friend is a term which I never use. I despise it! Why call a friend (Or a number of friends) you’re best friend ?. Do you have worst friends ? If they’re in the worst category surely that means they are not a friend at all. Sure I have close friends in which I speak to on a daily basis and we swap our problems but I wouldn’t call her a best friend. Why should I label my friends into categories ? I just don’t like it but I think this is just a matter of opinion.
So what has brought this question to my mind ? I know most of us aren’t best friends with our primary school friends. LIFE , most people think of life and think “I want to get married and have a family” and rightly so they think that most us of do, don’t we ?. The teen years are the years where you mostly hang around your friends and go out etc until you find your boyfriend/girlfriend and that is where my question comes in. In the past as many of you, if not all have experienced have had friends who started getting in a relationship and you just see less and less of them as time goes by. Understandably if they love each other they wish to spend as much time together as possible and that’s where some friendships end. A Number of years ago I had this friend who got a girlfriend and he literally just vanished off the face of the world. They broke up every couple of months for just 3 or 4 days and during those days I had my friend back but it did get quite tiring. The constant fights and at the end of the day the friendship was one-sided. I was there for him but when I needed someone where was he ?. Anyway as time went on one night he asked me to go out for a drink (this time however they were NOT on a break) so I asked him,as I was already quite annoyed with him for basically forgetting about me apart when it suited him. Are you not out with your girlfriend tonight ? and his answer was just No,Why do you think I’m asking you ? …. Errm.. Sorry what ? That did it for me! I got so annoyed,obviously I didn’t go out that night nor was I there for him when they kept breaking up. Did I do the right thing ? Shouldn’t we be there for our friends no matter what ? ….But shouldn’t they think that question themselves ? I always say it takes 2!… As years have gone by more and more friends have obviously gotten in a routine with their partners and obviously have no time for there used to be “best friend”.
Recently my closest friend whom I speak to daily and go on holidays together, we basically get along like a married couple but in a friendship. Before you think to yourselves “Do you like her”? …NO! lol Well I do like her but as a sister,we are that close.Well this friend has recently started seeing someone and I’m just thinking the plans we had on going to travel here and there…Are they still going to happen? We literally were saying ” we are single and we make the most of it live life etc” however now that she’s seeing someone this all may change. Let me just add that I approved the guy she is seeing and I told her that he is literally the male version of her, so nice and innocent and to be honest she does deserve a nice guy like him to treat her well!. Now I’m in like a paralysed thought of Am I going to lose her ? , Are things going to change ? Am I being selfish for thinking this ? and this is why the whole term of “Friends
Forever“ crossed my mind and made me question it.
Do we all not eventually move away from our friends and into relationships ? At a young age this is the goal for most people as it is what society imprints on us. So are friends really forever? My answer is pure and simple. No. You may continue to chat here and there but things change,situations change and you won’t be as close as you once were and just because of that fact I also find it hard to trust my friends. Not only do I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone and everybody’s business but if friends move on can you still trust that you’re deepest secrets and thoughts will not be shared? I just think Hmm..Only person I can trust is myself really as the saying from the T.V series Pretty Little Liars goes ” Only 2 can keep a secret if 1 of them is dead” . Drastic but in my opinion true.
Well I would LOVE to hear your thoughts on this topic and maybe it will help me better myself. Please Like,Comment and Share 🙂
Have a nice day 😉 XxX
Hey bloggers,so sometime ago someone had sent me an e-mail via the “Contact Page” on my blog and they told me about the impact that cancer has had in their life. Now that its close to Christmas it may be particularly harder to those who have lost people in their lives as its a time where we most remember those who have left us. Below I will copy an article this man wrote explaining what his wife has gone through.
My Experience with Cancer during the Holidays
With each year that passes by, I always look forward to the holiday season. For me, the holiday season is all about giving thanks and spending time with my loved ones. One can imagine how excited I was when my wife, Heather, gave birth to our daughter, Lily, in the summer of 2005. We were so excited to have our first and only child, and I was even more excited to be able to celebrate the holiday season with our new baby. We had so many ideas for the holidays and we could not have been any happier. However, our happiness was short-lived. It was just 3 days before we were supposed to be sitting down at the table for our Thanksgiving meal when Heather received her cancer diagnosis.
Our daughter was only 3 months old at the time that Heather was told she had mesothelioma. Our holiday cheer quickly diminished as we began our battle against cancer. There were so many emotions that I was dealing with, but the anger and fear were the strongest. I tried staying optimistic, although it was far easier said than actually done. I didn’t know much about mesothelioma, but we found out quickly that it was an extremely deadly form of cancer, and that most people would die within 12 months of being diagnosed. All I could see was the worst case scenario happening, and that Thanksgiving I felt that I had nothing to be thankful for.
Despite the terrible news, we still tried to celebrate with Heather’s family, who flew in to spend Thanksgiving with us. The family also spent Christmas with us and shortly after that, Heather would have to go to Boston to receive treatment for her cancer. I distinctly remember the difficult conversation we had that night with Heather’s family on Thanksgiving. After eating our meal, we sat there and talked about expenses and finances, along with care for our daughter. Heather’s family told us that they would be willing to help us with some of the bills and other expenses, especially since we were trying to survive off of one income alone. Our income was declining but the expenses for treatment and travel continued to expand. During that conversation, all I could feel was sadness and embarrassment that I could not take care of my family alone. It would be many years before I could look back on that day with greater clarity, and realize how mistaken I had been to look at it that way.
What I did not realize was the fact that we had the support of our family, all of whom were trying to help us in different ways. They were willing to drop everything in their own lives to be with us to help, and offered to make huge sacrifices of their own to ensure our well being. I was blinded by fear and pride at the time, but now I can see quite clearly how much we truly had to be thankful for that day.
Now that the holiday season is here again, I wanted to give thanks to everyone who supported us through our difficult journey. I am thankful to have great family and friends, a healthy daughter, and the support of so many who reached out a hand to help us. Thanks in large part to their support, we were able to make it through Heather’s mesothelioma surgery, chemotherapy and radiation treatments in the months that followed. Heather managed to beat the odds and she survived her battle with mesothelioma. We’ve celebrated seven Christmas’s and counting together with our beautiful daughter since the diagnosis, and we hope that our story of triumph over cancer can be a source of inspiration and hope to all those currently battling cancer this holiday season.
Remember if anyone has anything they want to talk about in private they are most welcomed to email me. I only posted the above as he asked me if I could do so to spread awareness.
Have a nice day x
Today I had a traumatic experience!. I thought I would have lost all my memories from the past,reminders,contact information the whole lot. This morning when I woke up my iPhone had switched off by itself and lost 100% battery over night whilst I was asleep. I was just thinking I can’t live without my phone, I need It for my everyday life. I spend A LOT of time on my phone and I can honestly say ” I Can’t Imagine My Life Without My iPhone!!”.
That got me thinking, It’s a bit sad that we live in an era where losing our phone means more to us than losing something much more valuable. When I say valuable I don’t mean in the sense of money. I guess its how society has moved us along right ?. They say that we are losing the ability to have a conversation in person rather than behind a screen. Could be true,So that’s why we should try to go out for drinks more often rather than say what we feel behind a screen. Although I am sure this is happens to all of us, especially the panic over our phones. How would I tweet my insane thoughts ?!- Yes I am a Twitter addict!. lol
That is all,hope you enjoyed todays short post 😀 x
Hey bloggers :), So todays blog will not be as serious as others, hope you don’t mind but we shouldn’t take life so serious all of the time! Besides i will raise some valid points.
Has anyone noticed how over the past number of years everything has become much more sexual ?. Everywhere we look it has some kind of hidden sexual agenda. I think big companies have finally figured out how to reach out to everyone. From selling a simple t-shirts to lipstick. Do i find anything wrong in this ? NO!. A lot of people are too quick to shut down a conversation about sex or anything related to it simply because they are either too embarrassed to talk about it or they find it inappropriate (or should i say “Socially Unacceptable” ). Lets get one thing straight here – Everyone has had or will have sex,sexual intercourse,coitus or whatever you prefer to call it. Its how we deeply express our emotions for one another be it Female & Male, Male & Male or Female & Female. So now that we all agree on this we can openly talk about this topic.
I think the biggest change has been in songs,especially from the biggest stars like Rihanna (e.g S&M),Lady GaGa (e.g Love Game) and alot more yet the whole topic is still seen as a topic of conversation where you can’t discuss it comfortably in a social place. Do you think we will ever get to a time where all of this is not so secretive ?. Everyone today is becoming more sexually advanced should i say? Maybe because it’s so easy now just to learn about these things as to before you had to be taught.
Masturbation – The one things all humans do yet only 1 in 1,000 agree on actually masturbating. It’s a normal thing that everyone does. Its even proven to be healthy so you shouldn’t be ashamed about it. If anyone watched the last series of Big Brother UK there was a housemate who actually wanted to bring a message across on how normal it is and nobody should be ashamed about it. So if your body asks for it … GO FOR IT!.
But Remember No matter what always use protection 😉
Have a nice day 😀
Did I make a mistake ? – Will I learn from it ? – Was there a reason for that to happen how it did ?.
I bet that you have asked yourself those questions at some point, especially when you’re going through a bad patch. Answers are, Yes you made a mistake and yes, you will learn from it. If you go back to one of my earlier posts I do strongly believe in that “Everything Happens For A Reason”. Life truly is like school the only way you learn is by doing it wrong but instead of having a teacher correct your mistakes you,yourself will have to be your life’s own teacher. You will only receive guidance when you’re growing up and from that ,later on in life you will be able to teach yourself when you make an error in life. We are all brought up differently but I hope that we can all tell the difference between what’s right and wrong.
I made a mistake in life around 2 years ago and I was hoping that no one would find out. Stupid of me thinking that as I live in a small place. Don’t worry I didn’t do anything illegal haha. It’s a mistake that I was worried that would make others see me differently. We all know small towns means a lot of gossip and everyone knowing everyone it was bound to get out. I admit to being scared of what the outcome is. What if more people find out ? but all I can do is wait and let nature takes its course I suppose. I believe that everything is happening how it is for a reason. I have big nerves in my stomach when I think about it and I go through these mood swings but I’ll let you know in a little secret – I’m Human. So I will embrace future mistakes,learn from it and hope for the best! as for now I hope this goes by so I can live comfortably again.
Hope you have a good one 🙂
Hey bloggers 🙂 – So we all have a dream…No! we actually have more than one type of dream. A dream that you can achieve and a dream which the chances of happening are around 0.00000000000000000000000000000001% (If that even is an accurate percentage but hey,lets pretend it is :)). So I will tell you my unrealistic dream and I’m sure all of you will have thought something similar to this.
So my unrealistic dream is to win the big Euromillions jackpot (£££££). Yes all those millions and I have plans for them to!. Well maybe not a plan to spend ALL of the money. Firstly i would give some to my mum,who by far is the person whom i look up to the most. Then i would give to my 2 older sisters and lastly i would open a savings account for my adorable nieces. Okay boring part over. So, my plan is obviously quit my day-to-day job. Will probably travel A LOT more go partying here and there becasue at the end of the day YOLO (You Only Live Once). After a year im guessing ill be ready to settle down. Now i always say that actors/actress have perfect bodies because they don’t have a 5 or 6 day week jobs, so their time is devoted at the gym. I would do the same i will go more to the gym than what i do now (which to be honest i hardly go haha). Apart from that i would like to do some volunteer work with R.I.C.C ( Research Into Childhood Cancer) . It’s a trust which I feel strongly about so I will also devote my time to them. Last by not least ,as most people would, i would buy a nice big house with a pool,jacuzzi and maybe built-in gym! ? haha… Oh! Don’t worry my blogging wouldn’t end actually…I would blog even more!.
However that is a fantasy which I think having a fantasy is healthy for the soul. Gives you something to hope for i suppose.
Realistically speaking now,i would like to study Psychology and become a child psychologist OR go into nursing. I don’t know what it is and this may sound weird to some of you but there’s something inside of me that tells me i was put on this earth to do something greater. I think i can achieve that by helping others,There are others out there that need more help than I do and by reaching out and doing that I feel I would have actually done something worthy with my life.
It is important to know that you ,yourself can achieve anything you want in life and don’t let others tell you otherwise. If you are determined and work hard enough for it you WILL achieve your dream 🙂 I know it is very cliché of me to say that but I honestly do believe in it.
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