Hey bloggers,so sometime ago someone had sent me an e-mail via the “Contact Page” on my blog and they told me about the impact that cancer has had in their life. Now that its close to Christmas it may be particularly harder to those who have lost people in their lives as its a time where we most remember those who have left us. Below I will copy an article this man wrote explaining what his wife has gone through.
My Experience with Cancer during the Holidays
With each year that passes by, I always look forward to the holiday season. For me, the holiday season is all about giving thanks and spending time with my loved ones. One can imagine how excited I was when my wife, Heather, gave birth to our daughter, Lily, in the summer of 2005. We were so excited to have our first and only child, and I was even more excited to be able to celebrate the holiday season with our new baby. We had so many ideas for the holidays and we could not have been any happier. However, our happiness was short-lived. It was just 3 days before we were supposed to be sitting down at the table for our Thanksgiving meal when Heather received her cancer diagnosis.
Our daughter was only 3 months old at the time that Heather was told she had mesothelioma. Our holiday cheer quickly diminished as we began our battle against cancer. There were so many emotions that I was dealing with, but the anger and fear were the strongest. I tried staying optimistic, although it was far easier said than actually done. I didn’t know much about mesothelioma, but we found out quickly that it was an extremely deadly form of cancer, and that most people would die within 12 months of being diagnosed. All I could see was the worst case scenario happening, and that Thanksgiving I felt that I had nothing to be thankful for.
Despite the terrible news, we still tried to celebrate with Heather’s family, who flew in to spend Thanksgiving with us. The family also spent Christmas with us and shortly after that, Heather would have to go to Boston to receive treatment for her cancer. I distinctly remember the difficult conversation we had that night with Heather’s family on Thanksgiving. After eating our meal, we sat there and talked about expenses and finances, along with care for our daughter. Heather’s family told us that they would be willing to help us with some of the bills and other expenses, especially since we were trying to survive off of one income alone. Our income was declining but the expenses for treatment and travel continued to expand. During that conversation, all I could feel was sadness and embarrassment that I could not take care of my family alone. It would be many years before I could look back on that day with greater clarity, and realize how mistaken I had been to look at it that way.
What I did not realize was the fact that we had the support of our family, all of whom were trying to help us in different ways. They were willing to drop everything in their own lives to be with us to help, and offered to make huge sacrifices of their own to ensure our well being. I was blinded by fear and pride at the time, but now I can see quite clearly how much we truly had to be thankful for that day.
Now that the holiday season is here again, I wanted to give thanks to everyone who supported us through our difficult journey. I am thankful to have great family and friends, a healthy daughter, and the support of so many who reached out a hand to help us. Thanks in large part to their support, we were able to make it through Heather’s mesothelioma surgery, chemotherapy and radiation treatments in the months that followed. Heather managed to beat the odds and she survived her battle with mesothelioma. We’ve celebrated seven Christmas’s and counting together with our beautiful daughter since the diagnosis, and we hope that our story of triumph over cancer can be a source of inspiration and hope to all those currently battling cancer this holiday season.
Remember if anyone has anything they want to talk about in private they are most welcomed to email me. I only posted the above as he asked me if I could do so to spread awareness.
Have a nice day x
Hey bloggers :), So todays blog will not be as serious as others, hope you don’t mind but we shouldn’t take life so serious all of the time! Besides i will raise some valid points.
Has anyone noticed how over the past number of years everything has become much more sexual ?. Everywhere we look it has some kind of hidden sexual agenda. I think big companies have finally figured out how to reach out to everyone. From selling a simple t-shirts to lipstick. Do i find anything wrong in this ? NO!. A lot of people are too quick to shut down a conversation about sex or anything related to it simply because they are either too embarrassed to talk about it or they find it inappropriate (or should i say “Socially Unacceptable” ). Lets get one thing straight here – Everyone has had or will have sex,sexual intercourse,coitus or whatever you prefer to call it. Its how we deeply express our emotions for one another be it Female & Male, Male & Male or Female & Female. So now that we all agree on this we can openly talk about this topic.
I think the biggest change has been in songs,especially from the biggest stars like Rihanna (e.g S&M),Lady GaGa (e.g Love Game) and alot more yet the whole topic is still seen as a topic of conversation where you can’t discuss it comfortably in a social place. Do you think we will ever get to a time where all of this is not so secretive ?. Everyone today is becoming more sexually advanced should i say? Maybe because it’s so easy now just to learn about these things as to before you had to be taught.
Masturbation – The one things all humans do yet only 1 in 1,000 agree on actually masturbating. It’s a normal thing that everyone does. Its even proven to be healthy so you shouldn’t be ashamed about it. If anyone watched the last series of Big Brother UK there was a housemate who actually wanted to bring a message across on how normal it is and nobody should be ashamed about it. So if your body asks for it … GO FOR IT!.
But Remember No matter what always use protection 😉
Have a nice day 😀
Today is MOTHERS DAY 😀 (In the Uk,Ireland & Gibraltar ..Europe lol)! Where would we all be without our mothers – They brought us up, came to us when we had nightmares,provided us with shelter and food and they make us their main priority.
To all you mothers reading this blog – You do an outstanding job everyday! Even if you’re a house mum and don’t work, in reality you do work. You work 7 days a week with no 15 min breaks and no lunch hour and 24 hours a day when you are needed you are there!. So I hope today you rest and just realise how your children appreciate the things you do – day in and day out 🙂