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Are We ALL Becoming Attention Seekers ? – My Thoughts !

Hey bloggers, I know it’s been a while and I have had this topic at the back of my mind for a couple of weeks now. 10 Years ago I suppose society was VERY different as to what it is today. Attention seekers worked harder to get their attention and noticed and fewer people wanted to be noticed. Do we realise that we are becoming attention seekers? I mean 10 years ago how would you grab someone’s attention without posting anything on any social network sites.

 

Are you an attention seeker? – I think we all are in one way or another. How many of you have Facebook or Twitter? Most if not all I’m sure and some of you will probably use other social networking sites like Tumbler etc. These social networking sites are designed in a way that makes us want to get noticed. On Facebook for example we “update our status” with the intentions for others to read it and later “Like” or Comment. Every day we post (Myself including) the little things everyone does in everyday life, things like the food we eat or what we drink on Facebook just so people will see and know what you’re doing. On Twitter I find people are more open (Myself Included) and people tend to share deeper thoughts even those that when posted on facebook may get a negative feedback.

 

Do we paint this pretty picture on Facebook? – I think most of us paint this mirage of ourselves on Facebook. We all want to be accepted by the majority of society so we post what we think will be “Liked” and accepted by others and with the hope that we will be, in return liked more by others and become that slightly more popular. I think we all post just what we want others to see obviously that is why we control it right? But don’t we all have darker thoughts? Not so nice thoughts that should be shared. After all Facebook does ask “What’s On Your Mind”, On many occasions I have posted an update saying “ Facebook keeps on asking me “What’s on my mind” but I’m scared if I post I will shock a lot of people!” Which I’m sure I will. At the end of the day we all seek acceptance by others and I think Social Networking sites like the ones I mentioned earlier play a bit part in it all. Maybe we don’t all realise it but I think it is getting worse. I am too a victim of this but a couple of weeks ago I was having a discussion with a friend who they claim they “don’t care what others think” So I pointed this out, we all use the edit features for the pictures, we all act as if we have this perfect life on facebook but behind that screen many of us have more insecurities than what we may know we have! Problem is, if we paint this picture too big how can we live up to it?

Hope I haven’t rumbles too much on this, Let me know your thoughts no matter how good or bad:) if you like please Like, Share & Comment!

 

Have a nice day 🙂

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Am I THAT insecure ?

Hey bloggers , so my last post was how I promised I would be going back to the gym and so I did. I was rather excited to go for  a little workout especially since it had been so long and I usually feel bad if I eat a lot of junk food and just stay at home on the sofa. When I got to the gym I realised a lot of new faces around and they were rather young to,I’d say around 16-18 at the most but that’s fine anyone can go to the gym, doesn’t bother me at all right? Hmm maybe it did just a bit. I went to what I call the “abs section” which is basically an area with the mats and medicine balls and this area is literally next to some machines for the chest area. The group of young lads were all around this area using the machines and I was just there on the mat not being able to concentrate on my workout or even do it properly because I was so conscious of them being there. I just kept telling myself “Why should I care what they think of me or how I’m doing my workouts?”. Although that is easier said than done,this all did bother me as I was in such a good mood wanting to have a good workout and suddenly it all went down hill,I got up from the mat and just moved to another area of the gym where I felt more comfortable whereas in that area I kept looking down not wanting to lift my head up and I even turned down the volume on my music just in case I overheard a comment or even if they could hear my music and that might make them judge me even more.

I know I have always been insecure,not liking how I look and basically having low self-esteem. Lets just say on my Facebook profile you won’t find any pictures of me in front of a mirror doing a pose,not that I find anything wrong with that.If you are confident with yourself you should do it after all, do what you think is right and each to their own. I admire those who can take those pictures and actually look good in them. Thinking on what has happened I have become slightly more judgemental on myself which is against what I believe in. I’m not one to add this fake persona for the world to see, I am me and that is it really. I know everyone has some sort of insecurity,even those people who act like if they love themselves and nothing can break them down.

Wait a second … Maybe my insecurities were making me a bit paranoid and hyped up everything that was going on ? Maybe they weren’t taking a notice of me and if they were, Would their opinion of me affect my life in any way?. I think we are all craving social acceptance especially when we are in situations like having a workout and having groups of people next to you which might leave you a bit vulnerable. Maybe I should apply more of what I believe into my life, maybe I should become more accepting of who I am and not let judgements affect me. So here I will say ” I know I’m not the guy with the dreamy abs or bulging biceps but that is me”. Tomorrow I will head to the gym again and if it were to happen again all I can do is try my best not to let it affect me.

Thank you readers and I apologise if I ranted on a bit.

Are you insecure about yourself? Try to come out of it,whoever puts you down should not have a place in your heart or life! Time is precious and we should spend it with those who love us for who we are. Be better be you 🙂

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Mothers Day :)

Hey bloggers 🙂 So today is Mothering Sunday (A.K.A. Mothers Day)…As you all know it’s the fourth Sunday of lent……Just kidding I was actually reminded that it was this Sunday like 4 days ago?. I knew it was in March just forgot it was so early on!.

A little paragraph dedicated to my mum and why she (as many other mothers) deserve this day.! My mum has always taken care of people all of her life,from an early age she helped my uncles and aunties get ready for school and even started working at an early age. She has basically been working all of her life before she got unwell but even at the beginning of her not feeling so well which was when my father left she had to work extra hard to support me and my sisters and not to mention the debt my father had left behind. My mum has been more than just a mum but a dad and a friend there to put a smile on your face during those bad days. She has never really treated herself to anything as money went towards bills and food, never did she spent any money on clothes for herself or the latest mobile or gadget. So when people say “why do mothers deserve a day just for them?” I will tell them this and more. One day where they shouldn’t cook or clean,one day where they should feel special!. A couple of years ago we were going through a bad time and I just made her a personal video which I planned to give to her on Mothers day but then I also thought why wait for that special day?. If you want to express something don’t wait for a special day to do it, you can make any day special. I’m actually glad that I showed her on an ordinary day because she did not expect it and her reaction for me was absolutely priceless!!

So Mothers Day 2013 – I have bought my mum Yankee Candles (If you don’t know what they are click on the name it will take you to their website,they are these AMAZING candles. They aren’t cheap but they really do smell nice) my mum is actually obsessed with them. Not quite sure if the website will ship to where you live,I had  to buy them at a local shop (I don’t live in the UK despite the UK website lol). Also got my mum a clock which says MUM oh and last but not least, I was actually quite shocked to see this… A Mothers Day card on behalf from a DOG! YES!!! So I also got her a card on behalf of Chico with a little
key ring with a westie on it. To see who my dog is just click on the name Chico and it will  re-direct you to my earlier post :). My sisters and I are also going to take her out for a nice Sunday roast which also happens to be her favourite meal.

So bloggers what have you done for your mothers on this special day ? Leave a little comment underneath and do share :).

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Have a nice day – spoil your mothers 😉 x x

Don’t Regret It, Don’t Question It – Accept & Learn.

Happy Monday bloggers! Can you call Monday happy? lol unless it’s a bank holiday!. Hope you all had a nice weekend!.

I sometimes feel like an advice guru with my friends.  Not saying that I’m the best at giving advice but I seem to be the one to go to these days and I don’t mind that at all. If I can help a friend in need then that’s why I’m here. After all friends are here to help take some stress off one another,a shoulder to cry on and most importantly fun to be around. Anyway I do learn a lot listening to different problems and the different situations. Some people do get themselves in quite the situation and sometimes I feel as they couldn’t have made a bigger mistake however I never judge their actions but I do try to calm them down and tell them that in the future all this happened to contribute to a bigger picture. This is what I wanted to blog about today, I just want everyone to know that it is Okay to make a mistake and to repeat that mistake a couple of times if its needed  but don’t stay stuck with the “What If’s”, Just move on and depend on your friends to help you move forward. If there’s something I believe in its this. Every bad choice you make in life,every wrong turn you make,every fight and every friendship , there is for a reason for it. How would we know how to differentiate between a good and bad friend if we had not trusted someone whom we shouldn’t have ? How would we not know NOT to do that same action again if we hadn’t done it before?. Especially with friendships,I am sure that most of you think “I wish I had never met him/her”. Stop there, think at one point you must have had fun ? and most importantly did that friendship introduce you to better friends today?. Ask yourself questions TODAY,not questions on what happened yesterday but what and who is in your life today and who you think will be in your life tomorrow.

It’s all in the posts title “Don’t Regret It,Don’t Question It but Accept & Learn from it”. Don’t fight fate,embrace it and by that you will let happiness enter your life and soon you will realise that the bad choices or mistakes that had once took over your mind was nothing but a small glitch along the way to your happiness today. 🙂

Thank you for reading bloggers 🙂 Feel free to Like,Comment or Share 😀 x

Social Labels

So I know I’ve written about stereotypes before in my blog. I think “Social Labels” is a topic I feel strongly about because it deals so much damage to a person’s mind and self-esteem,however we are all to blame for this because one way or another we all contribute into giving others labels. How you ask ? – Not me ! you say.  Most of us do it unknowingly maybe some sort of natural reaction in our minds?.

How many of you walk down town alone with your music on whilst day dreaming ?. Many of you I imagine, but all of a sudden you see this guy with the tightest pair of pants, make-up on and a fur coat . Most of you, in your head will say “Omg,he’s gay” or the erm “not so nice” people would think ” What a Fa**t”,sadly it does happen. How many of you see a person in McDonald’s having a large meal and that person just happens to look over weight. How many of you think to yourself ” She needs a diet” or any nasty comments you may share with friends or keep to yourself without knowing whether or not this person as an underlining health condition that will not allow her to lose weight. I am also guilty of this from time to time but then I complain when I hear others giving people a label. It infuriates me but am I no better ? Do I not have those thoughts ?. Sure I don’t act on them and I will NEVER laugh at someone’s expense but I think those things at times. Is it normal ? At the end of the day we should control our thoughts. Maybe we  label others in order to feel better about ourselves,boost ourself esteem and confidence.

I Am single, so I am labelled as being Single fair enough, does it stop there ? NO! as most people will carry on as to why they THINK I am still single. Well bloggers here is a little secret of my own that I will share with you on why I am single. I love being single, I do not desire being in a relationship. Why force something when my mind and heart are not asking for it ?. I let everything take its course, I dislike it when you hear people who are “looking” and by looking I mean desperately looking for another half. Sure being interested in someone is nothing wrong ,by far! What I mean here is those who jump from relationship to relationship just for the sake of it. I like my “freedom” and my space. Besides if I were to get into a relationship most of my blog posts would be less interesting (assuming you all find this interesting :)).

The worse label at the moment in today’s society is being called “GAY”. Let me just express how much that kills me inside that in the year we are in people are still being bullied over their sexual orientation . Something that is beyond their control and at the end of the day its a part of who they are. How many teens commit suicide because they can no longer handle the pressure of keeping the secret or because they are being bullied and they suffer in silence. For those of you in this current situation there is a project called the “It Gets Better Project” that I will link at the end of this post. Apart from that if you need anyone to talk to remember my contact page is at the top and feel free to use it!.

My conclusion is – We all hate being labelled! but how many times a day do we label someone without knowing we are doing so ?. Can we try to change this in our lives ? I think so. Keeping those thoughts to yourself and not acting on them will better you as a person and may help others to.

Here is the “It Gets Better” link. http://www.itgetsbetter.org/.

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Don’t Stick Them In !

How many of you listen to music when walking to work or walking anywhere ? – I listen to music every time I  walk anywhere, apart from today. This morning before leaving the house I thought to myself “I’m not going to use my headphones”. To be honest I couldn’t remember the last time I had walked to work without having music blasting in my ears. I think most of us have gone into this bad habit of just “sticking” our headphones in our ears and zooming off wherever we need to go. So today I did different and I discovered something and it got me thinking and I felt bad for not having noticed this before.

Every morning when I walk to work ,I walk through this tunnel and there’s always this middle-aged man playing a harmonica with a little glass in front of him for tips. I never think much of it to be honest just a “beggar”. I never give him a second thought I’m always in a rush to get to work on time.I got to the tunnel and I saw this man as I do everyday playing his harmonica and he actually said bye to me!. At first I thought “Maybe he says it to some random stranger every now and again for some money”, well I walked by again to go home for lunch and again to return to work from lunch and on each occasion when he was there he kept saying bye to me. I was left speechless! This man probably greets me every morning and I just walk past and I ignore him due to the fact that I have been blasting music in my ears ignoring the world around me. So I ask you to try to walk somewhere without your headphones in your ears, listen to the noises that you may have not heard in a while. The result shocked me ,maybe it will to you too.

 

Goodnight Bloggers x

Normal? Or Socially Acceptable!

Hey bloggers 🙂 , Have any of your friends ever told you “you’re not normal” . I’m sure they have, mine do quite a lot lol. Especially with one of my close friends who I speak to for hours a day so eventually we tend to speak about silly things and make long conversations about anything really. I also say Whats the fun in being normal ? Really what is ?. Actually can anyone define “Being Normal?” I believe there is no such thing as “being normal”. Every person has their own thoughts on what normal is. Depends on the person’s state of mind is how they categorize what is normal and what is not. You have some people that are louder than others, so whilst one thinks it is “normal” to shout the other thinks ” he’s acting up”.

Many of us mistake some actions as not being normal just because it would be too embarrassing therefore it’s not socially acceptable,by this i mean minor actions and not any anti-social behaviour. We live in an era where celebrities and TV shows dictate most of our actions in everyday life. (Don’t get me wrong I’m guilty as charged) , What you see on tv is manufactured to look as close to perfect as it can possibly can so its alright not to have the things you see on TV or magazines or to look how they look. So be loud, have fun and let your hair down 🙂 Do what feels right and just let your soul come out. People will love you more for it.

Have a nice daybloggers 🙂

The Past For A Reason

Hey bloggers :), I am so happy from the response i received yesterday from what could have been my last blog. You know i woke up feeling, ratings aren’t important. As long as i inspire and help 1 individual that is enough for me.

Anyways on to todays blog :).

Past,Present,Future.  Three Tenses, Three Meanings. So many of us ,including me, get so caught up in the past and it is so hard to let go of the past it will not allow us to live our life to the fullest in the present. Sometimes we destroy our lives trying to live in the past. Something that can’t work anymore. My message today is Let The Past Be!. Why hold on to something that is no longer there? If it’s in the past it has served it’s purpose in your life. Done what its done and left so you can make the most of your life. Every person that comes into your life is for a lesson, a message and once that is done they leave become a part of your past. We must learn to not forget the past as it makes us who we are today but to learn from the past to make our present days better and hope for a better future. So we can learn to become better people by learning from past mistakes,past messages 🙂

Hope you have a lovely day 🙂 Please subscribe ,comment and rate 🙂 x

The Easy Way Out!

Hey Blog  Buddies!. To give up is one of the easiest way out aye? . After having yet another break from blogging here i keep thinking should i just give up ? Cancel my blog! Delete all my thoughts and work i’ve put in it! I Know the blogging world has a very big competition out there, but i have felt only the minority of people read my blog. My blog is set to help people to find inspiration on everyday thoughts and life itself. It’s set on things i encounter and my own personal thoughts putting it out there to share for the world hoping it will help one of my readers. Only I have felt that it has failed to do so. So judging on the response i get from this blog.  This could be my very last blog ever, as i have lost all hope.

Let me just wish you all the best for 2011! and for those who have kept up to date with my blog. Thank you ever so much ! Please comment 🙂 Ly’allXxx

Sterotypes!

Society has always judged people by what they wear or how the look like. The typical “Goth” will wear black and be gloom. The typical “homosexual” will be the “campest” person out of the group and so on. Why do we judge people on there looks?.

Isn’t our Personalites what makes us a person ? An item of clothing does not define who i am. The colour of my hair or eyes does not tell you what “social group” i belong too. Social group is just a word to help people understand where they belong. I don’t believe in Social Groups, i have all sorts of friends and i love it.

Today i found myself speaking to a couple of my friends and they are nothing alike and i love it,it shows me that not only should i not judge someone by there “label” but to look beyond there appearance!.

So i ask you? Do you judge wrongly?

Goodnight x