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Friends Forever. . . But Is It True ?

Hey bloggers, So as some of you may know this blog is about my random thoughts,experiences etc and recently I have been thinking about the term “Friends Forever” and the validity of that saying. Are friends really forever ? I’m not quite sure anymore. One simple question . . Are you as close as you were with your bestest best friend from primary school ?. I know I’m not , in fact I’m not as close with my friends from comprehensive school.

The term Best Friend is a term which I never use. I despise it! Why call a friend (Or a number of friends) you’re best friend ?. Do you have worst friends ? If they’re in the worst category surely that means they are not a friend at all. Sure I have close friends in which I speak to on a daily basis and we swap our problems but I wouldn’t call her a best friend. Why should I label my friends into categories ? I just don’t like it but I think this is just a matter of opinion.

So what has brought this question to my mind ? I know most of us aren’t best friends with our primary school friends. LIFE , most people think of life and think “I want to get married and have a family” and rightly so they think that most us of do, don’t we ?. The teen years are the years where you mostly hang around your friends and go out etc until you find your boyfriend/girlfriend and that is where my question comes in. In the past as many of you, if not all have experienced have had friends who started getting in a relationship and you just see less and less of them as time goes by. Understandably if they love each other they wish to spend as much time together as possible and that’s where some friendships end. A Number of years ago I had this friend who got a girlfriend and he literally just vanished off the face of the world. They broke up every couple of months for just 3 or 4 days and during those days I had my friend back but it did get quite tiring. The constant fights and at the end of the day the friendship was one-sided. I was there for him but when I needed someone where was he ?. Anyway as time went on one night he asked me to go out for a drink (this time however they were NOT on a break) so I asked him,as I was already quite annoyed with him for basically forgetting about me apart when it suited him. Are you not out with your girlfriend tonight ? and his answer was just No,Why do you think I’m asking you ? …. Errm.. Sorry what ? That did it for me! I got so annoyed,obviously I didn’t go out that night nor was I there for him when they kept breaking up. Did I do the right thing ? Shouldn’t we be there for our friends no matter what ? ….But shouldn’t they think that question themselves ? I always say it takes 2!… As years have gone by more and more friends have obviously gotten in a routine with their partners and obviously have no time for there used to be “best friend”.

Recently my closest friend whom I speak to daily and go on holidays together, we basically get along like a married couple but in a friendship. Before you think to yourselves “Do you like her”? …NO! lol Well I do like her but as a sister,we are that close.Well this friend has recently started seeing someone and I’m just thinking the plans we had on going to travel here and there…Are they still going to happen? We literally were saying ” we are single and we make the most of it live life etc” however now that she’s seeing someone this all may change. Let me just add that I approved the guy she is seeing and I told her that he is literally the male version of her, so nice and innocent and to be honest she does deserve a nice guy like him to treat her well!. Now I’m in like a paralysed thought of Am I going to lose her ? , Are things going to change ? Am I being selfish for thinking this ? and this is why the whole term of “Friends Forever crossed my mind and made me question it.

Do we all not eventually move away from our friends and into relationships ? At a young age this is the goal for most people as it is what society imprints on us. So are friends really forever?  My answer is pure and simple. No. You may continue to chat here and there but things change,situations change and you won’t be as close as you once were and just because of that fact I also find it hard to trust my friends. Not only do I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone and everybody’s business but if friends move on can you still trust that you’re deepest secrets and thoughts will not be shared? I just think Hmm..Only person I can trust is myself really as the saying from the T.V series Pretty Little Liars goes ” Only 2 can keep a secret if 1 of them is dead” . Drastic but in my opinion true.

Well I would LOVE to hear your thoughts on this topic and maybe it will help me better myself. Please Like,Comment and Share 🙂

Have a nice day 😉 XxX

Arrow !

I don’t usually blog about the shows I watch and trust me I am a TV show addict. The series out there at the moment are just simply amazing. Last night a new one premiered called Arrow. I’m sure most of you have heard of the “Green Arrow”, a rich young man who went through a tragic moment in life and made him see sense so he uses he’s resources and helps those who have been a victim of millionaires that have ripped them off. Sort of like a more modern version of Robin Hood. Besides everyone in this series have GREAT bodies,makes me want to head to the gym just to try to look like that!

It has had GREAT ratings on its first episode,the way they have introduced all the characters and the stories behind each and every one of them is brilliant. I for one can’t wait for next week’s ep!.

Heres the link,check out the trailers 😀 ! http://www.imdb.com/title/tt2193021/

Goodnight bloggers

Social Labels

So I know I’ve written about stereotypes before in my blog. I think “Social Labels” is a topic I feel strongly about because it deals so much damage to a person’s mind and self-esteem,however we are all to blame for this because one way or another we all contribute into giving others labels. How you ask ? – Not me ! you say.  Most of us do it unknowingly maybe some sort of natural reaction in our minds?.

How many of you walk down town alone with your music on whilst day dreaming ?. Many of you I imagine, but all of a sudden you see this guy with the tightest pair of pants, make-up on and a fur coat . Most of you, in your head will say “Omg,he’s gay” or the erm “not so nice” people would think ” What a Fa**t”,sadly it does happen. How many of you see a person in McDonald’s having a large meal and that person just happens to look over weight. How many of you think to yourself ” She needs a diet” or any nasty comments you may share with friends or keep to yourself without knowing whether or not this person as an underlining health condition that will not allow her to lose weight. I am also guilty of this from time to time but then I complain when I hear others giving people a label. It infuriates me but am I no better ? Do I not have those thoughts ?. Sure I don’t act on them and I will NEVER laugh at someone’s expense but I think those things at times. Is it normal ? At the end of the day we should control our thoughts. Maybe we  label others in order to feel better about ourselves,boost ourself esteem and confidence.

I Am single, so I am labelled as being Single fair enough, does it stop there ? NO! as most people will carry on as to why they THINK I am still single. Well bloggers here is a little secret of my own that I will share with you on why I am single. I love being single, I do not desire being in a relationship. Why force something when my mind and heart are not asking for it ?. I let everything take its course, I dislike it when you hear people who are “looking” and by looking I mean desperately looking for another half. Sure being interested in someone is nothing wrong ,by far! What I mean here is those who jump from relationship to relationship just for the sake of it. I like my “freedom” and my space. Besides if I were to get into a relationship most of my blog posts would be less interesting (assuming you all find this interesting :)).

The worse label at the moment in today’s society is being called “GAY”. Let me just express how much that kills me inside that in the year we are in people are still being bullied over their sexual orientation . Something that is beyond their control and at the end of the day its a part of who they are. How many teens commit suicide because they can no longer handle the pressure of keeping the secret or because they are being bullied and they suffer in silence. For those of you in this current situation there is a project called the “It Gets Better Project” that I will link at the end of this post. Apart from that if you need anyone to talk to remember my contact page is at the top and feel free to use it!.

My conclusion is – We all hate being labelled! but how many times a day do we label someone without knowing we are doing so ?. Can we try to change this in our lives ? I think so. Keeping those thoughts to yourself and not acting on them will better you as a person and may help others to.

Here is the “It Gets Better” link. http://www.itgetsbetter.org/.

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SEX! – Frustation ?

Hey bloggers :), So todays blog will not be as serious as others, hope you don’t mind but we shouldn’t take life so serious all of the time! Besides i will raise some valid points.

Has anyone noticed how over the past number of years everything has become much more sexual ?. Everywhere we look it has some kind of hidden sexual agenda. I think big companies have finally figured out how to reach out to everyone. From selling a simple t-shirts to lipstick. Do i find anything wrong in this ? NO!.  A lot of people are too quick to shut down a conversation about sex or anything related to it simply because they are either too embarrassed to talk about it or they find it inappropriate (or should i say “Socially Unacceptable” ). Lets get one thing straight here – Everyone has had or will have sex,sexual intercourse,coitus or whatever you prefer to call it. Its how we deeply express our emotions for one another be it Female & Male, Male & Male or Female & Female. So now that we all agree on this we can openly talk about this topic.
I think the biggest change has been in songs,especially from the biggest stars like Rihanna (e.g S&M),Lady GaGa (e.g Love Game) and alot more yet the whole topic is still seen as a topic of conversation where you can’t discuss it comfortably in a social place. Do you think we will ever get to a time where all of this is not so secretive ?. Everyone today is becoming more sexually advanced should i say? Maybe because it’s so easy now just to learn about these things as to before you had to be taught.

Masturbation – The one things all humans do yet only 1 in 1,000 agree on actually masturbating. It’s a normal thing that everyone does. Its even proven to be healthy so you shouldn’t be ashamed about it. If anyone watched the last series of Big Brother UK there was a housemate who actually wanted to bring a message across on how normal it is and nobody should be ashamed about it. So if your body asks for it … GO FOR IT!.

 

But Remember No matter what always use protection 😉

 

Have a nice day 😀

Normal? Or Socially Acceptable!

Hey bloggers 🙂 , Have any of your friends ever told you “you’re not normal” . I’m sure they have, mine do quite a lot lol. Especially with one of my close friends who I speak to for hours a day so eventually we tend to speak about silly things and make long conversations about anything really. I also say Whats the fun in being normal ? Really what is ?. Actually can anyone define “Being Normal?” I believe there is no such thing as “being normal”. Every person has their own thoughts on what normal is. Depends on the person’s state of mind is how they categorize what is normal and what is not. You have some people that are louder than others, so whilst one thinks it is “normal” to shout the other thinks ” he’s acting up”.

Many of us mistake some actions as not being normal just because it would be too embarrassing therefore it’s not socially acceptable,by this i mean minor actions and not any anti-social behaviour. We live in an era where celebrities and TV shows dictate most of our actions in everyday life. (Don’t get me wrong I’m guilty as charged) , What you see on tv is manufactured to look as close to perfect as it can possibly can so its alright not to have the things you see on TV or magazines or to look how they look. So be loud, have fun and let your hair down 🙂 Do what feels right and just let your soul come out. People will love you more for it.

Have a nice daybloggers 🙂

Sexy-o-meter ! We all use it!

Hey bloggers!

So todays blog is about our “Sexy-o-meter”. Today i noticed, when i walk down town by myself , i get abit bored and i noticed that i started to, not stare, but maybe take a glance at the people walking past. At the same time i was rating from 1-10 and thinking “hmm Do-able” . We live in a sex filled era where most of our everyday topics end up involving sex,sexualities or some type of a sexual topic. Thing is this is not the first time i’ve used this Sexy-O-Meter that i own within me, Oh and i know most if not all of you have it! Don’t hide it! Be yourself! don’t hide who you are from the world. You are YOU for a reason. Our imperfections are what makes us unique and there’s only one of you out there! Whats the fun in copying someone else ? I’m sure each and everyone of you have much more interesting features about your personality that makes people fall in love each day!

So when you are walking down town, what is your type of Girl/Guy ? What would be a amazing 10 on your own Sexy-O-Meter ? ( I know very shallow blog ,but hey, this blog is about my thoughts and today this crossed my mind :P) So Leave a little comment underneath , & Feel Free to share this blog.

If any of you need some advice on ANYTHING , feel free to contact me. There’s a contact page on top.

Have a nice day 😀 Peace x

Summer Is Around The Corner . . . Don’t panic ! Or Do ?

Hey Bloggers,

It is coming! and i bet most of us are feeling guilty about most things that we are eating. We all want these perfect summer bodies, I know I do! When I eat junk food I feel so guilty for eating it. Although I like going to the gym, that great feeling  I get after a workout. I love it ! So i advice if you want a summer body, PLEASE do it for yourself and not for others at the end of the day it is your body, you choose how to live as long as it isn’t affecting your health.

I hate watching films with actors like Zac Efron who have the perfect body, they make me feel bad! Anyways i know this is a bit of a superficial post but it is what most of us think. Well i do 🙂 Here is a link to a video that gives you some Ab exercises and all you need is a sofa!!! Try these out 😀 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3fU_8kJeXeE.

When you feel good about yourself you are bound to have a better day and a better view on things that will be coming your way 😀

Let me know what you think !

 

Peace ;D x

A Years Break, Writers Block ?

Hey blog buddies ! Sorry I haven’t been blogging ! At all ! ..It’s been over a year since my last post! To be honest I stopped blogging because of the ratings ! I know i have blogged about this before so I’m not going to repeat myself 🙂

It has been a hell of a year, Hell being the operative word! I lost a very close family member to Cancer. First time I’ve ever lost anyone so close to my heart and it did hurt a great deal!. It’s a shame with all of this technology we have and we have yet to find any cure for Cancer! I hope we do! 🙂 ( Please donate to cancer research http://supportus.cancerresearchuk.org/donate/ ) Together we can beat this ! 🙂

On Another note i hope all of you have seen the video about Kony ! I will do my bit plus Post the video here to bring awareness to take this sick criminal down! PLEASE repost this video on your Facebook,Twitter and Blog sites 😀 Do your bit and help those in need! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y4MnpzG5Sqc

I hope you have had a good year ! And if you need to speak to anyone just drop a comment ▼▼▼

“Reading Is To The Mind As Music Is To The Soul”

Hey Bloggers, With all the blogs i write i never get to mention the one thing. The one thing that insipries most people. That is MUSIC!!! I Love music. It describes so many emotions and helps you in everyday life :). I studied music at gcse level. And that even grew my love for it even more:)

Reading is to the mind,as music is to the soul  one of my favourtie qoutes ever in life. Music helps your soul in so many ways.

Recently i came across this song and it describes soo much it can be intrepided in two ways.. The lost of a loved one or relationship problems. Althou when you see Hannah montana ( Miley Cyrus) you might think ” rubbish” but give it a try. (Important click on the link below)

Good night Bloggersx

>>>>>Wherever I Go -Hannah Montana Ft Emily Osman <<<<<( CLICK ON THE LINK)

Wanting The Unobtainable

Hey Bloggers :)! , Today’s blog is overused and probably everyone has heard about it but i have experienced this for the last couple of days.

We All Want What We Can’t Have. There you have it, the truth and we all suffer from that. It EATS us up inside seeing this thing,hearing about this person and not been able to have it. So Close but yet so far away. So true, for months i have wanted this person and i mean more than a friend kind of way;)!. The way they look,smell,talk,smile. Kills me not been able to have this person by my side!. I just want to jump out and say it ! risk it all! After all life is one big risk but we think before we act, even those who say I don’t think before i act…. You do,subconsciously we all do.

I think we need to stop for a second…just a second and think…. Why do i want this ? i have lived all this time without this object or person,whatever it is we desire. I have had fun ,haven’t i not ?…So Why must we beat ourselves up, be miserable for the day,stress out and be depressed because we can’t get what we want. Did you know it takes as much energy to be happy than to be sad..So which would you rather be ?, I’m voting to be happy, life is too short to be sad :)!, Everything will fall into place,even if at the end of the day we do not get what we once wanted, there’s a reason for that maybe a bigger purpose why it did not end that way. Remember it happened like it did for a reason 🙂

Have a great day and remember think Pink, Tomorrow is Pink Day, remembering all those who have passed away,together we WILL beat cancer :)x