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Now I’m A Warrior !

Hey bloggers 🙂 Apologies for not posting a blog in a Long time ! . Hope you’re all well 🙂

I recently bought a book ( Not an e-book but an actual book with pages !!) from Demi Lovato , anyone heard of her ? I’m sure you have. The book is called Staying Strong 365 days a year and basically it has famous quotes then Demi’s reflection on that quote for that day and she adds a little goal for you for the day. It truly is an inspirational book filled with some amazing quotes and goals !. I will add a link to her book here Demi Lovato – Staying Strong 365 Days A Year I think it gives you a page or 2 of the book for you to read :)!

Every night I always read the next days page right before going to bed and here is tomorrow’s page ( December 9th)

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The quote is from her song Warrior from her latest album Demi. It’s said to be a follow up song from her hit single Skyscraper and the lyrics in both songs are so inspirational!. Getting back to tomorrow’s page, She wrote the song to help so many people who are going through a bad time and just to remind them
That it does get better . Many of us ,everyday, walk down town or even read and see pictures on Facebook or Twitter and make fun of what we see … Not knowing how that person feels ,or what that person is going through. I always try and think twice before making a prejudgement of what I see and hear and consider what that other person must be going through, for example, if you see a picture of a guy/girl who may be over weight  most of us will make fun and insult right ? Well maybe that person has a medical reason as to why he/she cannot lose weight and gets picked on everyday for something she can’t change!. So what I ask from
You today is to think before you judge and consider the other persons feeling and situation.

Oh and check out Demi’s album because it is amazing !! If you need to contact me for whatever reason feel free so by sending me an e-mail via my contact page located on the tab above or just click HERE.

 

🙂 Goodnight bloggers x

Friends Forever. . . But Is It True ?

Hey bloggers, So as some of you may know this blog is about my random thoughts,experiences etc and recently I have been thinking about the term “Friends Forever” and the validity of that saying. Are friends really forever ? I’m not quite sure anymore. One simple question . . Are you as close as you were with your bestest best friend from primary school ?. I know I’m not , in fact I’m not as close with my friends from comprehensive school.

The term Best Friend is a term which I never use. I despise it! Why call a friend (Or a number of friends) you’re best friend ?. Do you have worst friends ? If they’re in the worst category surely that means they are not a friend at all. Sure I have close friends in which I speak to on a daily basis and we swap our problems but I wouldn’t call her a best friend. Why should I label my friends into categories ? I just don’t like it but I think this is just a matter of opinion.

So what has brought this question to my mind ? I know most of us aren’t best friends with our primary school friends. LIFE , most people think of life and think “I want to get married and have a family” and rightly so they think that most us of do, don’t we ?. The teen years are the years where you mostly hang around your friends and go out etc until you find your boyfriend/girlfriend and that is where my question comes in. In the past as many of you, if not all have experienced have had friends who started getting in a relationship and you just see less and less of them as time goes by. Understandably if they love each other they wish to spend as much time together as possible and that’s where some friendships end. A Number of years ago I had this friend who got a girlfriend and he literally just vanished off the face of the world. They broke up every couple of months for just 3 or 4 days and during those days I had my friend back but it did get quite tiring. The constant fights and at the end of the day the friendship was one-sided. I was there for him but when I needed someone where was he ?. Anyway as time went on one night he asked me to go out for a drink (this time however they were NOT on a break) so I asked him,as I was already quite annoyed with him for basically forgetting about me apart when it suited him. Are you not out with your girlfriend tonight ? and his answer was just No,Why do you think I’m asking you ? …. Errm.. Sorry what ? That did it for me! I got so annoyed,obviously I didn’t go out that night nor was I there for him when they kept breaking up. Did I do the right thing ? Shouldn’t we be there for our friends no matter what ? ….But shouldn’t they think that question themselves ? I always say it takes 2!… As years have gone by more and more friends have obviously gotten in a routine with their partners and obviously have no time for there used to be “best friend”.

Recently my closest friend whom I speak to daily and go on holidays together, we basically get along like a married couple but in a friendship. Before you think to yourselves “Do you like her”? …NO! lol Well I do like her but as a sister,we are that close.Well this friend has recently started seeing someone and I’m just thinking the plans we had on going to travel here and there…Are they still going to happen? We literally were saying ” we are single and we make the most of it live life etc” however now that she’s seeing someone this all may change. Let me just add that I approved the guy she is seeing and I told her that he is literally the male version of her, so nice and innocent and to be honest she does deserve a nice guy like him to treat her well!. Now I’m in like a paralysed thought of Am I going to lose her ? , Are things going to change ? Am I being selfish for thinking this ? and this is why the whole term of “Friends Forever crossed my mind and made me question it.

Do we all not eventually move away from our friends and into relationships ? At a young age this is the goal for most people as it is what society imprints on us. So are friends really forever?  My answer is pure and simple. No. You may continue to chat here and there but things change,situations change and you won’t be as close as you once were and just because of that fact I also find it hard to trust my friends. Not only do I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone and everybody’s business but if friends move on can you still trust that you’re deepest secrets and thoughts will not be shared? I just think Hmm..Only person I can trust is myself really as the saying from the T.V series Pretty Little Liars goes ” Only 2 can keep a secret if 1 of them is dead” . Drastic but in my opinion true.

Well I would LOVE to hear your thoughts on this topic and maybe it will help me better myself. Please Like,Comment and Share 🙂

Have a nice day 😉 XxX

Are We ALL Becoming Attention Seekers ? – My Thoughts !

Hey bloggers, I know it’s been a while and I have had this topic at the back of my mind for a couple of weeks now. 10 Years ago I suppose society was VERY different as to what it is today. Attention seekers worked harder to get their attention and noticed and fewer people wanted to be noticed. Do we realise that we are becoming attention seekers? I mean 10 years ago how would you grab someone’s attention without posting anything on any social network sites.

 

Are you an attention seeker? – I think we all are in one way or another. How many of you have Facebook or Twitter? Most if not all I’m sure and some of you will probably use other social networking sites like Tumbler etc. These social networking sites are designed in a way that makes us want to get noticed. On Facebook for example we “update our status” with the intentions for others to read it and later “Like” or Comment. Every day we post (Myself including) the little things everyone does in everyday life, things like the food we eat or what we drink on Facebook just so people will see and know what you’re doing. On Twitter I find people are more open (Myself Included) and people tend to share deeper thoughts even those that when posted on facebook may get a negative feedback.

 

Do we paint this pretty picture on Facebook? – I think most of us paint this mirage of ourselves on Facebook. We all want to be accepted by the majority of society so we post what we think will be “Liked” and accepted by others and with the hope that we will be, in return liked more by others and become that slightly more popular. I think we all post just what we want others to see obviously that is why we control it right? But don’t we all have darker thoughts? Not so nice thoughts that should be shared. After all Facebook does ask “What’s On Your Mind”, On many occasions I have posted an update saying “ Facebook keeps on asking me “What’s on my mind” but I’m scared if I post I will shock a lot of people!” Which I’m sure I will. At the end of the day we all seek acceptance by others and I think Social Networking sites like the ones I mentioned earlier play a bit part in it all. Maybe we don’t all realise it but I think it is getting worse. I am too a victim of this but a couple of weeks ago I was having a discussion with a friend who they claim they “don’t care what others think” So I pointed this out, we all use the edit features for the pictures, we all act as if we have this perfect life on facebook but behind that screen many of us have more insecurities than what we may know we have! Problem is, if we paint this picture too big how can we live up to it?

Hope I haven’t rumbles too much on this, Let me know your thoughts no matter how good or bad:) if you like please Like, Share & Comment!

 

Have a nice day 🙂

Mothers Day :)

Hey bloggers 🙂 So today is Mothering Sunday (A.K.A. Mothers Day)…As you all know it’s the fourth Sunday of lent……Just kidding I was actually reminded that it was this Sunday like 4 days ago?. I knew it was in March just forgot it was so early on!.

A little paragraph dedicated to my mum and why she (as many other mothers) deserve this day.! My mum has always taken care of people all of her life,from an early age she helped my uncles and aunties get ready for school and even started working at an early age. She has basically been working all of her life before she got unwell but even at the beginning of her not feeling so well which was when my father left she had to work extra hard to support me and my sisters and not to mention the debt my father had left behind. My mum has been more than just a mum but a dad and a friend there to put a smile on your face during those bad days. She has never really treated herself to anything as money went towards bills and food, never did she spent any money on clothes for herself or the latest mobile or gadget. So when people say “why do mothers deserve a day just for them?” I will tell them this and more. One day where they shouldn’t cook or clean,one day where they should feel special!. A couple of years ago we were going through a bad time and I just made her a personal video which I planned to give to her on Mothers day but then I also thought why wait for that special day?. If you want to express something don’t wait for a special day to do it, you can make any day special. I’m actually glad that I showed her on an ordinary day because she did not expect it and her reaction for me was absolutely priceless!!

So Mothers Day 2013 – I have bought my mum Yankee Candles (If you don’t know what they are click on the name it will take you to their website,they are these AMAZING candles. They aren’t cheap but they really do smell nice) my mum is actually obsessed with them. Not quite sure if the website will ship to where you live,I had  to buy them at a local shop (I don’t live in the UK despite the UK website lol). Also got my mum a clock which says MUM oh and last but not least, I was actually quite shocked to see this… A Mothers Day card on behalf from a DOG! YES!!! So I also got her a card on behalf of Chico with a little
key ring with a westie on it. To see who my dog is just click on the name Chico and it will  re-direct you to my earlier post :). My sisters and I are also going to take her out for a nice Sunday roast which also happens to be her favourite meal.

So bloggers what have you done for your mothers on this special day ? Leave a little comment underneath and do share :).

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Have a nice day – spoil your mothers 😉 x x

Meet My Dog ! & Proof A Dog Could Be Your Best Friend !

Hey Bloggers I don’t think I have mentioned this before!! …Actually can’t believe I haven’t mentioned this before!! But…I am a big animal lover <3!. I Myself have a little dog called “Chico” (It’s a Spanish slang word used to describe something small). Chico is a West Highland Terrier (Also known as a Westie). I was never meant to get a westie I was meant to adopt a dog from someone who could not take care of her puppies however her daughter got too attached to the dog and decided to drop out last minute. I was devastated, I really set my hopes high and made plans for the new addition to the family. My sister then went to a shop and bought  a small westie which was probably the best outcome ever. I suffer from asthma and apparently terriers don’t shed fur and their fur are “human Like” so they don’t affect my allergies or asthma!. I remember the first night he spent in my house (6 years ago now) he slept down stairs and in the morning we couldn’t find him ANYWHERE! Poor Chico had spent the night sleeping under the sofa. I could speak about my dog FOREVER -really is a mans best friend :). Here is a little picture of Chico…

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Chico

Why introduce my dog to you now you ask ? ….Well…..I saw this article online about dogs and their owners having a #cheeky nap together after they had been practising and taking part in a dog show!. I love when me and my dog fall asleep on the sofa or bed!  Have a look at the dogs  HERE!..

Are You An Animal Lover ? Share your stories with your loved pets or even send me a  little picture of them via my “Contact Page” and I may use it in a future post 🙂

Thank You bloggers 🙂 Like- Comment-Share-Subscribe 😀 .

Singelton on Valentines …Who’s with me ?

Morning bloggers!!… Happy Valentine’s day!! Wonderful day ….for those in love that is. A day where everyone in a relationship is basically forced to show their love buy buying presents and cards. Why wait for a specific day to show your love for someone reminds me of Mothers day. I love my mum everyday why should I wait for a specific day to show it so a couple of years ago I gave her presents and a video that I made weeks before Mothers Day! Don’t wait to show your love ;)…

So let me put a positive spin for us single people on this lovely day… Single on Valentines? NO PROBLEM it’s actually better for us. We save money on buying presents but not only that we can buy ourselves a present!. Perfect excuse to spend some money on whatever we want but we usually don’t want to get… Although I must say try and avoid social networks, especially Facebook!  – I’m more of a twitter person myself but it will be Love everywhere. So enjoy this day you single people 😉

Its The Thought That No Longer Counts.

Hi bloggers so a mini blog post today called “It’s The Thought That Not Longer Counts”. What does that mean ? Let me explain what I mean by it.

In the past have you ever heard before your birthday or Christmas “It’s the thought that counts”?. Yes, I have plenty of times. Coming from a family that struggled to get by in the early years we learned to love every present we got. Be it a pair of socks to a new console game. We appreciated everything we got and had and never asked for expensive gifts as we knew that would just add the stress to my mother.Now that I work I obviously buy the presents for everyone and I found it very stressful because in today’s society the thought no longer counts. Materials count, I found an old Yo-Yo the other day clearing out my cupboards and I thought to myself “I wonder if kids nowadays will know what these are”. Buying gifts for little kids or friends my own age has proven to be a challenge,although finding the perfect gift for them maybe the value of the gift was just ÂŁ10 so I found myself having to buy something else….Which then meant I had to buy something else for others as I couldn’t possibly give one gift to one person yet another receive two or more presents.

Some of you may know I had a minor operation ( I wrote about it in an earlier blog post) so my gift shopping was held up and I know find myself in a situation where I have bought some people more than others and I started to think ” Well who cares, They all have a gift and that is what matters right? Isn’t it the thought that counts”…. I found myself laughing to myself after thinking that because everyone now asks for iPhone’s,iPads and gifts which are worth more than ÂŁ100. The thought no longer counts but the quantity and quality of gifts. I’m going to sound older than what I am ( and I’m only 21) but kids today do not appreciate things at all.

Try to restore this in your kids & If you already do so… You’re one of the rare good parents and instill good morals in your kids Xxx

AhHhHhH Its The End OF THE WORLD!!!!!!!!!!!!! Or is it ;)

Grab your children,pets and ALL the food you can get and ?. RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN ?

Seeing as this will be tomorrows topic and I’m pretty sure it’s invading your Facebook home page and Twitter news feed I thought  I might aswell give my little intake about it…

 

They say the “Mayan Calendar” is set to end on the 21st December 2012 which would mean the end to the world as we know it. I heard the Mayans predicted the last Ice Age to?. The Mayans are going to be strongly criticised if the world doesn’t really end tomorrow (21st December 2012) although I have recently read that they have never actually said that the world will end on such a date. Are they backing down now ? Maybe they truly didn’t predict the end of the world but on one of their tapestries a crocodile is squirting alot of water out and people have linked this picture with the current floods in the UK and the devastating hit of hurricane Sandy in New York. So is the world really going to end ? If the Government knew would they inform people creating havoc everywhere?. After all if they could they would save themselves and their families right?. I think this whole concept have driven some people over the edge,across the US people have bought bomb shelters and stocked up on food and water just in case something huge were to happen. Many people laugh but what if it were to happen ?.

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Do I believe the world will end tomorrow ?. Simple answer is No. However I do believe that maybe not tomorrow but someday something huge and catastrophic will occur because if history has taught me anything is that every so often something has to change the world. Earth has lived through Ice Ages,terrible floods, natural disasters and even World Wars. My granny used to say every 40 years or so a World War or something big had to happen because something had to lower the world’s population and the fact that it isn’t happening it’s actually quite frightening. unfortunately such events will happen again and who knows maybe asteroids actually do hit earth but as to when it will happen,well that’s a secret that none of us will know so I suppose that is why we should live our lives to the fullest!.

 

If this is my last message thank to all who have shared my blog,liked my links and commented on my posts you made my days brighter. If you wish to contact me privately you know how to do so 😉

 

Peace XoXo

Cancer victims letter.

Hey bloggers,so sometime ago someone had sent me an e-mail via the “Contact Page” on my blog and they told me about the impact that cancer has had in their life. Now that its close to Christmas it may be particularly harder to those who have lost people in their lives as its a time where we most remember those who have left us. Below I will copy an article this man wrote explaining what his wife has gone through.

My Experience with Cancer during the Holidays

With each year that passes by, I always look forward to the holiday season. For me, the holiday season is all about giving thanks and spending time with my loved ones. One can imagine how excited I was when my wife, Heather, gave birth to our daughter, Lily, in the summer of 2005. We were so excited to have our first and only child, and I was even more excited to be able to celebrate the holiday season with our new baby. We had so many ideas for the holidays and we could not have been any happier. However, our happiness was short-lived. It was just 3 days before we were supposed to be sitting down at the table for our Thanksgiving meal when Heather received her cancer diagnosis.

Our daughter was only 3 months old at the time that Heather was told she had mesothelioma. Our holiday cheer quickly diminished as we began our battle against cancer. There were so many emotions that I was dealing with, but the anger and fear were the strongest. I tried staying optimistic, although it was far easier said than actually done.  I didn’t know much about mesothelioma, but we found out quickly that it was an extremely deadly form of cancer, and that most people would die within 12 months of being diagnosed.  All I could see was the worst case scenario happening, and that Thanksgiving I felt that I had nothing to be thankful for.

Despite the terrible news, we still tried to celebrate with Heather’s family, who flew in to spend Thanksgiving with us. The family also spent Christmas with us and shortly after that, Heather would have to go to Boston to receive treatment for her cancer. I distinctly remember the difficult conversation we had that night with Heather’s family on Thanksgiving. After eating our meal, we sat there and talked about expenses and finances, along with care for our daughter. Heather’s family told us that they would be willing to help us with some of the bills and other expenses, especially since we were trying to survive off of one income alone. Our income was declining but the expenses for treatment and travel continued to expand. During that conversation, all I could feel was sadness and embarrassment that I could not take care of my family alone.  It would be many years before I could look back on that day with greater clarity, and realize how mistaken I had been to look at it that way.

What I did not realize was the fact that we had the support of our family, all of whom were trying to help us in different ways. They were willing to drop everything in their own lives to be with us to help, and offered to make huge sacrifices of their own to ensure our well being.  I was blinded by fear and pride at the time, but now I can see quite clearly how much we truly had to be thankful for that day.

Now that the holiday season is here again, I wanted to give thanks to everyone who supported us through our difficult journey. I am thankful to have great family and friends, a healthy daughter, and the support of so many who reached out a hand to help us. Thanks in large part to their support, we were able to make it through Heather’s mesothelioma surgery, chemotherapy and radiation treatments in the months that followed.  Heather managed to beat the odds and she survived her battle with mesothelioma. We’ve celebrated seven Christmas’s and counting together with our beautiful daughter since the diagnosis, and we hope that our story of triumph over cancer can be a source of inspiration and hope to all those currently battling cancer this holiday season.

 

Remember if anyone has anything they want to talk about in private they are most welcomed to email me. I only posted the above as he asked me if I could do so to spread awareness.

 

Have a nice day x

SEX! – Frustation ?

Hey bloggers :), So todays blog will not be as serious as others, hope you don’t mind but we shouldn’t take life so serious all of the time! Besides i will raise some valid points.

Has anyone noticed how over the past number of years everything has become much more sexual ?. Everywhere we look it has some kind of hidden sexual agenda. I think big companies have finally figured out how to reach out to everyone. From selling a simple t-shirts to lipstick. Do i find anything wrong in this ? NO!.  A lot of people are too quick to shut down a conversation about sex or anything related to it simply because they are either too embarrassed to talk about it or they find it inappropriate (or should i say “Socially Unacceptable” ). Lets get one thing straight here – Everyone has had or will have sex,sexual intercourse,coitus or whatever you prefer to call it. Its how we deeply express our emotions for one another be it Female & Male, Male & Male or Female & Female. So now that we all agree on this we can openly talk about this topic.
I think the biggest change has been in songs,especially from the biggest stars like Rihanna (e.g S&M),Lady GaGa (e.g Love Game) and alot more yet the whole topic is still seen as a topic of conversation where you can’t discuss it comfortably in a social place. Do you think we will ever get to a time where all of this is not so secretive ?. Everyone today is becoming more sexually advanced should i say? Maybe because it’s so easy now just to learn about these things as to before you had to be taught.

Masturbation – The one things all humans do yet only 1 in 1,000 agree on actually masturbating. It’s a normal thing that everyone does. Its even proven to be healthy so you shouldn’t be ashamed about it. If anyone watched the last series of Big Brother UK there was a housemate who actually wanted to bring a message across on how normal it is and nobody should be ashamed about it. So if your body asks for it … GO FOR IT!.

 

But Remember No matter what always use protection 😉

 

Have a nice day 😀