Hey bloggers, So as some of you may know this blog is about my random thoughts,experiences etc and recently I have been thinking about the term “Friends Forever” and the validity of that saying. Are friends really forever ? I’m not quite sure anymore. One simple question . . Are you as close as you were with your bestest best friend from primary school ?. I know I’m not , in fact I’m not as close with my friends from comprehensive school.
The term Best Friend is a term which I never use. I despise it! Why call a friend (Or a number of friends) you’re best friend ?. Do you have worst friends ? If they’re in the worst category surely that means they are not a friend at all. Sure I have close friends in which I speak to on a daily basis and we swap our problems but I wouldn’t call her a best friend. Why should I label my friends into categories ? I just don’t like it but I think this is just a matter of opinion.
So what has brought this question to my mind ? I know most of us aren’t best friends with our primary school friends. LIFE , most people think of life and think “I want to get married and have a family” and rightly so they think that most us of do, don’t we ?. The teen years are the years where you mostly hang around your friends and go out etc until you find your boyfriend/girlfriend and that is where my question comes in. In the past as many of you, if not all have experienced have had friends who started getting in a relationship and you just see less and less of them as time goes by. Understandably if they love each other they wish to spend as much time together as possible and that’s where some friendships end. A Number of years ago I had this friend who got a girlfriend and he literally just vanished off the face of the world. They broke up every couple of months for just 3 or 4 days and during those days I had my friend back but it did get quite tiring. The constant fights and at the end of the day the friendship was one-sided. I was there for him but when I needed someone where was he ?. Anyway as time went on one night he asked me to go out for a drink (this time however they were NOT on a break) so I asked him,as I was already quite annoyed with him for basically forgetting about me apart when it suited him. Are you not out with your girlfriend tonight ? and his answer was just No,Why do you think I’m asking you ? …. Errm.. Sorry what ? That did it for me! I got so annoyed,obviously I didn’t go out that night nor was I there for him when they kept breaking up. Did I do the right thing ? Shouldn’t we be there for our friends no matter what ? ….But shouldn’t they think that question themselves ? I always say it takes 2!… As years have gone by more and more friends have obviously gotten in a routine with their partners and obviously have no time for there used to be “best friend”.
Recently my closest friend whom I speak to daily and go on holidays together, we basically get along like a married couple but in a friendship. Before you think to yourselves “Do you like her”? …NO! lol Well I do like her but as a sister,we are that close.Well this friend has recently started seeing someone and I’m just thinking the plans we had on going to travel here and there…Are they still going to happen? We literally were saying ” we are single and we make the most of it live life etc” however now that she’s seeing someone this all may change. Let me just add that I approved the guy she is seeing and I told her that he is literally the male version of her, so nice and innocent and to be honest she does deserve a nice guy like him to treat her well!. Now I’m in like a paralysed thought of Am I going to lose her ? , Are things going to change ? Am I being selfish for thinking this ? and this is why the whole term of “Friends
Forever“ crossed my mind and made me question it.
Do we all not eventually move away from our friends and into relationships ? At a young age this is the goal for most people as it is what society imprints on us. So are friends really forever? My answer is pure and simple. No. You may continue to chat here and there but things change,situations change and you won’t be as close as you once were and just because of that fact I also find it hard to trust my friends. Not only do I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone and everybody’s business but if friends move on can you still trust that you’re deepest secrets and thoughts will not be shared? I just think Hmm..Only person I can trust is myself really as the saying from the T.V series Pretty Little Liars goes ” Only 2 can keep a secret if 1 of them is dead” . Drastic but in my opinion true.
Well I would LOVE to hear your thoughts on this topic and maybe it will help me better myself. Please Like,Comment and Share 🙂
Have a nice day 😉 XxX
Hi bloggers so a mini blog post today called “It’s The Thought That Not Longer Counts”. What does that mean ? Let me explain what I mean by it.
In the past have you ever heard before your birthday or Christmas “It’s the thought that counts”?. Yes, I have plenty of times. Coming from a family that struggled to get by in the early years we learned to love every present we got. Be it a pair of socks to a new console game. We appreciated everything we got and had and never asked for expensive gifts as we knew that would just add the stress to my mother.Now that I work I obviously buy the presents for everyone and I found it very stressful because in today’s society the thought no longer counts. Materials count, I found an old Yo-Yo the other day clearing out my cupboards and I thought to myself “I wonder if kids nowadays will know what these are”. Buying gifts for little kids or friends my own age has proven to be a challenge,although finding the perfect gift for them maybe the value of the gift was just £10 so I found myself having to buy something else….Which then meant I had to buy something else for others as I couldn’t possibly give one gift to one person yet another receive two or more presents.
Some of you may know I had a minor operation ( I wrote about it in an earlier blog post) so my gift shopping was held up and I know find myself in a situation where I have bought some people more than others and I started to think ” Well who cares, They all have a gift and that is what matters right? Isn’t it the thought that counts”…. I found myself laughing to myself after thinking that because everyone now asks for iPhone’s,iPads and gifts which are worth more than £100. The thought no longer counts but the quantity and quality of gifts. I’m going to sound older than what I am ( and I’m only 21) but kids today do not appreciate things at all.
Try to restore this in your kids & If you already do so… You’re one of the rare good parents and instill good morals in your kids Xxx
Let me just say Congrats for surviving this “doomsday”. Glad to see that we all live another day to tell the tale and we can carry on with our lives. Wonder how the extremists are feeling at this moment in time. Annoyed because their belief of the end was wrong or relieved because they are still alive, mixed emotions I suppose. As I mentioned in my previous post I do believe that something huge is going to happen in the world, maybe not today or tomorrow but someday something will change life as we know it. Could it be another World War? or natural disasters we won’t know until that day is here.
Relieved that the 21st December 2012 is over and we survived ? Oh I wouldn’t be because, Yes we didn’t die but nothing has changed and it still is a world where only the fittest will survive. I don’t mean toned abs and bulging biceps but mentally devious and backstabbing. As in this day and age our best friends could just be a simple disguise of our worst enemy. I warn you bloggers and readers trust few but befriend many. Devious plan right? Well after all we all want to survive this cruel world and there’s a lot of people who are set in destroying others and their happiness. I’m a true believer of Karma the way I think of it is “What goes up must come down…eventually and when it does the force of gravity will hit you 10 times worse”. I beg you not to do anything with ill intentions but simply befriend your enemies and love them like any other. Not only are you annoying them even more which may lead them do worse things behind your back but you’re also giving our good friend karma more to add to the delivery package when it returns to sender :).
Now enough of the planning all in all it really is Survival Of The Fittest in more ways than one and you all want to make sure you can run just a bit just in case of a disaster ;).
Sorry if this post is a bit too erm… dark ? but after all I have to post about what I’m truly feeling and hopefully it helps you too.
Grab your children,pets and ALL the food you can get and ?. RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN ?
Seeing as this will be tomorrows topic and I’m pretty sure it’s invading your Facebook home page and Twitter news feed I thought I might aswell give my little intake about it…
They say the “Mayan Calendar” is set to end on the 21st December 2012 which would mean the end to the world as we know it. I heard the Mayans predicted the last Ice Age to?. The Mayans are going to be strongly criticised if the world doesn’t really end tomorrow (21st December 2012) although I have recently read that they have never actually said that the world will end on such a date. Are they backing down now ? Maybe they truly didn’t predict the end of the world but on one of their tapestries a crocodile is squirting alot of water out and people have linked this picture with the current floods in the UK and the devastating hit of hurricane Sandy in New York. So is the world really going to end ? If the Government knew would they inform people creating havoc everywhere?. After all if they could they would save themselves and their families right?. I think this whole concept have driven some people over the edge,across the US people have bought bomb shelters and stocked up on food and water just in case something huge were to happen. Many people laugh but what if it were to happen ?.
Do I believe the world will end tomorrow ?. Simple answer is No. However I do believe that maybe not tomorrow but someday something huge and catastrophic will occur because if history has taught me anything is that every so often something has to change the world. Earth has lived through Ice Ages,terrible floods, natural disasters and even World Wars. My granny used to say every 40 years or so a World War or something big had to happen because something had to lower the world’s population and the fact that it isn’t happening it’s actually quite frightening. unfortunately such events will happen again and who knows maybe asteroids actually do hit earth but as to when it will happen,well that’s a secret that none of us will know so I suppose that is why we should live our lives to the fullest!.
If this is my last message thank to all who have shared my blog,liked my links and commented on my posts you made my days brighter. If you wish to contact me privately you know how to do so 😉
Hey bloggers,so sometime ago someone had sent me an e-mail via the “Contact Page” on my blog and they told me about the impact that cancer has had in their life. Now that its close to Christmas it may be particularly harder to those who have lost people in their lives as its a time where we most remember those who have left us. Below I will copy an article this man wrote explaining what his wife has gone through.
My Experience with Cancer during the Holidays
With each year that passes by, I always look forward to the holiday season. For me, the holiday season is all about giving thanks and spending time with my loved ones. One can imagine how excited I was when my wife, Heather, gave birth to our daughter, Lily, in the summer of 2005. We were so excited to have our first and only child, and I was even more excited to be able to celebrate the holiday season with our new baby. We had so many ideas for the holidays and we could not have been any happier. However, our happiness was short-lived. It was just 3 days before we were supposed to be sitting down at the table for our Thanksgiving meal when Heather received her cancer diagnosis.
Our daughter was only 3 months old at the time that Heather was told she had mesothelioma. Our holiday cheer quickly diminished as we began our battle against cancer. There were so many emotions that I was dealing with, but the anger and fear were the strongest. I tried staying optimistic, although it was far easier said than actually done. I didn’t know much about mesothelioma, but we found out quickly that it was an extremely deadly form of cancer, and that most people would die within 12 months of being diagnosed. All I could see was the worst case scenario happening, and that Thanksgiving I felt that I had nothing to be thankful for.
Despite the terrible news, we still tried to celebrate with Heather’s family, who flew in to spend Thanksgiving with us. The family also spent Christmas with us and shortly after that, Heather would have to go to Boston to receive treatment for her cancer. I distinctly remember the difficult conversation we had that night with Heather’s family on Thanksgiving. After eating our meal, we sat there and talked about expenses and finances, along with care for our daughter. Heather’s family told us that they would be willing to help us with some of the bills and other expenses, especially since we were trying to survive off of one income alone. Our income was declining but the expenses for treatment and travel continued to expand. During that conversation, all I could feel was sadness and embarrassment that I could not take care of my family alone. It would be many years before I could look back on that day with greater clarity, and realize how mistaken I had been to look at it that way.
What I did not realize was the fact that we had the support of our family, all of whom were trying to help us in different ways. They were willing to drop everything in their own lives to be with us to help, and offered to make huge sacrifices of their own to ensure our well being. I was blinded by fear and pride at the time, but now I can see quite clearly how much we truly had to be thankful for that day.
Now that the holiday season is here again, I wanted to give thanks to everyone who supported us through our difficult journey. I am thankful to have great family and friends, a healthy daughter, and the support of so many who reached out a hand to help us. Thanks in large part to their support, we were able to make it through Heather’s mesothelioma surgery, chemotherapy and radiation treatments in the months that followed. Heather managed to beat the odds and she survived her battle with mesothelioma. We’ve celebrated seven Christmas’s and counting together with our beautiful daughter since the diagnosis, and we hope that our story of triumph over cancer can be a source of inspiration and hope to all those currently battling cancer this holiday season.
Remember if anyone has anything they want to talk about in private they are most welcomed to email me. I only posted the above as he asked me if I could do so to spread awareness.
Have a nice day x
Hey bloggers ! How are you all enjoying the nice winter ?.
So envy , that’s the topic today :). I’m not talking about the simple day to day “omg I’m jealous of his abs or her hair”. I’m talking about the envy we all have deep inside. Some of us won’t know that the feeling we currently have is indeed envy!. How many of you admit of this envy ? How many of you share it with the world and let the world, SOCIETY judge you upon that remark?. I know i have yet to do that but today I shall change that. I will open up and admit to one of my ” Seven Deadliest Sins “.
TALENT – that is it. That is my envy plain and simple. I’m envious of others talents. Don’t think I’m jealous of EVERYONE who has a talent in singing or drawing and whatever their talent may be. However I’m most envious of those who never tried in school, those who spent more time in detention than in classes and those who were never bothered about school or their education. Those are the ones I’m envious and at times I think why do I not have a talent ?. I honestly don’t think I have any talent and it does get me down. I know if they have a talent it is for a reason and they were given it for a greater purpose but then I think ” well? What is mine then?”. That is purely my deepest envy! I also think what gets me the most is that I did not work towards any talent to perfect it!
So bloggers what is your deepest envy ?
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