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Social Labels

So I know I’ve written about stereotypes before in my blog. I think “Social Labels” is a topic I feel strongly about because it deals so much damage to a person’s mind and self-esteem,however we are all to blame for this because one way or another we all contribute into giving others labels. How you ask ? – Not me ! you say.  Most of us do it unknowingly maybe some sort of natural reaction in our minds?.

How many of you walk down town alone with your music on whilst day dreaming ?. Many of you I imagine, but all of a sudden you see this guy with the tightest pair of pants, make-up on and a fur coat . Most of you, in your head will say “Omg,he’s gay” or the erm “not so nice” people would think ” What a Fa**t”,sadly it does happen. How many of you see a person in McDonald’s having a large meal and that person just happens to look over weight. How many of you think to yourself ” She needs a diet” or any nasty comments you may share with friends or keep to yourself without knowing whether or not this person as an underlining health condition that will not allow her to lose weight. I am also guilty of this from time to time but then I complain when I hear others giving people a label. It infuriates me but am I no better ? Do I not have those thoughts ?. Sure I don’t act on them and I will NEVER laugh at someone’s expense but I think those things at times. Is it normal ? At the end of the day we should control our thoughts. Maybe we  label others in order to feel better about ourselves,boost ourself esteem and confidence.

I Am single, so I am labelled as being Single fair enough, does it stop there ? NO! as most people will carry on as to why they THINK I am still single. Well bloggers here is a little secret of my own that I will share with you on why I am single. I love being single, I do not desire being in a relationship. Why force something when my mind and heart are not asking for it ?. I let everything take its course, I dislike it when you hear people who are “looking” and by looking I mean desperately looking for another half. Sure being interested in someone is nothing wrong ,by far! What I mean here is those who jump from relationship to relationship just for the sake of it. I like my “freedom” and my space. Besides if I were to get into a relationship most of my blog posts would be less interesting (assuming you all find this interesting :)).

The worse label at the moment in today’s society is being called “GAY”. Let me just express how much that kills me inside that in the year we are in people are still being bullied over their sexual orientation . Something that is beyond their control and at the end of the day its a part of who they are. How many teens commit suicide because they can no longer handle the pressure of keeping the secret or because they are being bullied and they suffer in silence. For those of you in this current situation there is a project called the “It Gets Better Project” that I will link at the end of this post. Apart from that if you need anyone to talk to remember my contact page is at the top and feel free to use it!.

My conclusion is – We all hate being labelled! but how many times a day do we label someone without knowing we are doing so ?. Can we try to change this in our lives ? I think so. Keeping those thoughts to yourself and not acting on them will better you as a person and may help others to.

Here is the “It Gets Better” link. http://www.itgetsbetter.org/.

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SEX! – Frustation ?

Hey bloggers :), So todays blog will not be as serious as others, hope you don’t mind but we shouldn’t take life so serious all of the time! Besides i will raise some valid points.

Has anyone noticed how over the past number of years everything has become much more sexual ?. Everywhere we look it has some kind of hidden sexual agenda. I think big companies have finally figured out how to reach out to everyone. From selling a simple t-shirts to lipstick. Do i find anything wrong in this ? NO!.  A lot of people are too quick to shut down a conversation about sex or anything related to it simply because they are either too embarrassed to talk about it or they find it inappropriate (or should i say “Socially Unacceptable” ). Lets get one thing straight here – Everyone has had or will have sex,sexual intercourse,coitus or whatever you prefer to call it. Its how we deeply express our emotions for one another be it Female & Male, Male & Male or Female & Female. So now that we all agree on this we can openly talk about this topic.
I think the biggest change has been in songs,especially from the biggest stars like Rihanna (e.g S&M),Lady GaGa (e.g Love Game) and alot more yet the whole topic is still seen as a topic of conversation where you can’t discuss it comfortably in a social place. Do you think we will ever get to a time where all of this is not so secretive ?. Everyone today is becoming more sexually advanced should i say? Maybe because it’s so easy now just to learn about these things as to before you had to be taught.

Masturbation – The one things all humans do yet only 1 in 1,000 agree on actually masturbating. It’s a normal thing that everyone does. Its even proven to be healthy so you shouldn’t be ashamed about it. If anyone watched the last series of Big Brother UK there was a housemate who actually wanted to bring a message across on how normal it is and nobody should be ashamed about it. So if your body asks for it … GO FOR IT!.

 

But Remember No matter what always use protection 😉

 

Have a nice day 😀

Mothers Day

Hey bloggers!

Today is MOTHERS DAY 😀 (In the Uk,Ireland & Gibraltar ..Europe lol)! Where would we all be without our mothers – They brought us up, came to us when we had nightmares,provided us with shelter and food and they make us their main priority.

To all you mothers reading this blog – You do an outstanding job everyday! Even if you’re a house mum and don’t work, in reality you do work. You work 7 days a week with no 15 min breaks and no lunch hour and 24 hours a day when you are needed you are there!. So I hope today you rest and just realise how your children appreciate the things you do – day in and day out 🙂

Sexy-o-meter ! We all use it!

Hey bloggers!

So todays blog is about our “Sexy-o-meter”. Today i noticed, when i walk down town by myself , i get abit bored and i noticed that i started to, not stare, but maybe take a glance at the people walking past. At the same time i was rating from 1-10 and thinking “hmm Do-able” . We live in a sex filled era where most of our everyday topics end up involving sex,sexualities or some type of a sexual topic. Thing is this is not the first time i’ve used this Sexy-O-Meter that i own within me, Oh and i know most if not all of you have it! Don’t hide it! Be yourself! don’t hide who you are from the world. You are YOU for a reason. Our imperfections are what makes us unique and there’s only one of you out there! Whats the fun in copying someone else ? I’m sure each and everyone of you have much more interesting features about your personality that makes people fall in love each day!

So when you are walking down town, what is your type of Girl/Guy ? What would be a amazing 10 on your own Sexy-O-Meter ? ( I know very shallow blog ,but hey, this blog is about my thoughts and today this crossed my mind :P) So Leave a little comment underneath , & Feel Free to share this blog.

If any of you need some advice on ANYTHING , feel free to contact me. There’s a contact page on top.

Have a nice day 😀 Peace x

Sterotypes!

Society has always judged people by what they wear or how the look like. The typical “Goth” will wear black and be gloom. The typical “homosexual” will be the “campest” person out of the group and so on. Why do we judge people on there looks?.

Isn’t our Personalites what makes us a person ? An item of clothing does not define who i am. The colour of my hair or eyes does not tell you what “social group” i belong too. Social group is just a word to help people understand where they belong. I don’t believe in Social Groups, i have all sorts of friends and i love it.

Today i found myself speaking to a couple of my friends and they are nothing alike and i love it,it shows me that not only should i not judge someone by there “label” but to look beyond there appearance!.

So i ask you? Do you judge wrongly?

Goodnight x