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Friends Forever. . . But Is It True ?

Hey bloggers, So as some of you may know this blog is about my random thoughts,experiences etc and recently I have been thinking about the term “Friends Forever” and the validity of that saying. Are friends really forever ? I’m not quite sure anymore. One simple question . . Are you as close as you were with your bestest best friend from primary school ?. I know I’m not , in fact I’m not as close with my friends from comprehensive school.

The term Best Friend is a term which I never use. I despise it! Why call a friend (Or a number of friends) you’re best friend ?. Do you have worst friends ? If they’re in the worst category surely that means they are not a friend at all. Sure I have close friends in which I speak to on a daily basis and we swap our problems but I wouldn’t call her a best friend. Why should I label my friends into categories ? I just don’t like it but I think this is just a matter of opinion.

So what has brought this question to my mind ? I know most of us aren’t best friends with our primary school friends. LIFE , most people think of life and think “I want to get married and have a family” and rightly so they think that most us of do, don’t we ?. The teen years are the years where you mostly hang around your friends and go out etc until you find your boyfriend/girlfriend and that is where my question comes in. In the past as many of you, if not all have experienced have had friends who started getting in a relationship and you just see less and less of them as time goes by. Understandably if they love each other they wish to spend as much time together as possible and that’s where some friendships end. A Number of years ago I had this friend who got a girlfriend and he literally just vanished off the face of the world. They broke up every couple of months for just 3 or 4 days and during those days I had my friend back but it did get quite tiring. The constant fights and at the end of the day the friendship was one-sided. I was there for him but when I needed someone where was he ?. Anyway as time went on one night he asked me to go out for a drink (this time however they were NOT on a break) so I asked him,as I was already quite annoyed with him for basically forgetting about me apart when it suited him. Are you not out with your girlfriend tonight ? and his answer was just No,Why do you think I’m asking you ? …. Errm.. Sorry what ? That did it for me! I got so annoyed,obviously I didn’t go out that night nor was I there for him when they kept breaking up. Did I do the right thing ? Shouldn’t we be there for our friends no matter what ? ….But shouldn’t they think that question themselves ? I always say it takes 2!… As years have gone by more and more friends have obviously gotten in a routine with their partners and obviously have no time for there used to be “best friend”.

Recently my closest friend whom I speak to daily and go on holidays together, we basically get along like a married couple but in a friendship. Before you think to yourselves “Do you like her”? …NO! lol Well I do like her but as a sister,we are that close.Well this friend has recently started seeing someone and I’m just thinking the plans we had on going to travel here and there…Are they still going to happen? We literally were saying ” we are single and we make the most of it live life etc” however now that she’s seeing someone this all may change. Let me just add that I approved the guy she is seeing and I told her that he is literally the male version of her, so nice and innocent and to be honest she does deserve a nice guy like him to treat her well!. Now I’m in like a paralysed thought of Am I going to lose her ? , Are things going to change ? Am I being selfish for thinking this ? and this is why the whole term of “Friends Forever crossed my mind and made me question it.

Do we all not eventually move away from our friends and into relationships ? At a young age this is the goal for most people as it is what society imprints on us. So are friends really forever?  My answer is pure and simple. No. You may continue to chat here and there but things change,situations change and you won’t be as close as you once were and just because of that fact I also find it hard to trust my friends. Not only do I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone and everybody’s business but if friends move on can you still trust that you’re deepest secrets and thoughts will not be shared? I just think Hmm..Only person I can trust is myself really as the saying from the T.V series Pretty Little Liars goes ” Only 2 can keep a secret if 1 of them is dead” . Drastic but in my opinion true.

Well I would LOVE to hear your thoughts on this topic and maybe it will help me better myself. Please Like,Comment and Share 🙂

Have a nice day 😉 XxX

Are We ALL Becoming Attention Seekers ? – My Thoughts !

Hey bloggers, I know it’s been a while and I have had this topic at the back of my mind for a couple of weeks now. 10 Years ago I suppose society was VERY different as to what it is today. Attention seekers worked harder to get their attention and noticed and fewer people wanted to be noticed. Do we realise that we are becoming attention seekers? I mean 10 years ago how would you grab someone’s attention without posting anything on any social network sites.

 

Are you an attention seeker? – I think we all are in one way or another. How many of you have Facebook or Twitter? Most if not all I’m sure and some of you will probably use other social networking sites like Tumbler etc. These social networking sites are designed in a way that makes us want to get noticed. On Facebook for example we “update our status” with the intentions for others to read it and later “Like” or Comment. Every day we post (Myself including) the little things everyone does in everyday life, things like the food we eat or what we drink on Facebook just so people will see and know what you’re doing. On Twitter I find people are more open (Myself Included) and people tend to share deeper thoughts even those that when posted on facebook may get a negative feedback.

 

Do we paint this pretty picture on Facebook? – I think most of us paint this mirage of ourselves on Facebook. We all want to be accepted by the majority of society so we post what we think will be “Liked” and accepted by others and with the hope that we will be, in return liked more by others and become that slightly more popular. I think we all post just what we want others to see obviously that is why we control it right? But don’t we all have darker thoughts? Not so nice thoughts that should be shared. After all Facebook does ask “What’s On Your Mind”, On many occasions I have posted an update saying “ Facebook keeps on asking me “What’s on my mind” but I’m scared if I post I will shock a lot of people!” Which I’m sure I will. At the end of the day we all seek acceptance by others and I think Social Networking sites like the ones I mentioned earlier play a bit part in it all. Maybe we don’t all realise it but I think it is getting worse. I am too a victim of this but a couple of weeks ago I was having a discussion with a friend who they claim they “don’t care what others think” So I pointed this out, we all use the edit features for the pictures, we all act as if we have this perfect life on facebook but behind that screen many of us have more insecurities than what we may know we have! Problem is, if we paint this picture too big how can we live up to it?

Hope I haven’t rumbles too much on this, Let me know your thoughts no matter how good or bad:) if you like please Like, Share & Comment!

 

Have a nice day 🙂

Its The Thought That No Longer Counts.

Hi bloggers so a mini blog post today called “It’s The Thought That Not Longer Counts”. What does that mean ? Let me explain what I mean by it.

In the past have you ever heard before your birthday or Christmas “It’s the thought that counts”?. Yes, I have plenty of times. Coming from a family that struggled to get by in the early years we learned to love every present we got. Be it a pair of socks to a new console game. We appreciated everything we got and had and never asked for expensive gifts as we knew that would just add the stress to my mother.Now that I work I obviously buy the presents for everyone and I found it very stressful because in today’s society the thought no longer counts. Materials count, I found an old Yo-Yo the other day clearing out my cupboards and I thought to myself “I wonder if kids nowadays will know what these are”. Buying gifts for little kids or friends my own age has proven to be a challenge,although finding the perfect gift for them maybe the value of the gift was just £10 so I found myself having to buy something else….Which then meant I had to buy something else for others as I couldn’t possibly give one gift to one person yet another receive two or more presents.

Some of you may know I had a minor operation ( I wrote about it in an earlier blog post) so my gift shopping was held up and I know find myself in a situation where I have bought some people more than others and I started to think ” Well who cares, They all have a gift and that is what matters right? Isn’t it the thought that counts”…. I found myself laughing to myself after thinking that because everyone now asks for iPhone’s,iPads and gifts which are worth more than £100. The thought no longer counts but the quantity and quality of gifts. I’m going to sound older than what I am ( and I’m only 21) but kids today do not appreciate things at all.

Try to restore this in your kids & If you already do so… You’re one of the rare good parents and instill good morals in your kids Xxx

We survived but the fight is not over ….

Let me just say Congrats for surviving this “doomsday”. Glad to see that we all live another day to tell the tale and we can carry on with our lives. Wonder how the extremists are feeling at this moment in time. Annoyed because their belief of the end was wrong or relieved because they are still alive, mixed emotions I suppose. As I mentioned in my previous post I do believe that something huge is going to happen in the world, maybe not  today or tomorrow but someday something will change life as we know it. Could it be another World War? or natural disasters we won’t know until that day is here.

Be Prepared & Act Well.Relieved that the 21st December 2012 is over and we survived ? Oh I wouldn’t be because, Yes we didn’t die but nothing has changed and it still is a world where only the fittest will survive. I don’t mean toned abs and bulging biceps but mentally devious and backstabbing. As in this day and age our best friends could just be a simple disguise of our worst enemy. I warn you bloggers and readers trust few but befriend many. Devious plan right? Well after all we all want to survive this cruel world and there’s a lot of people who are set in destroying others and their happiness. I’m a true believer of Karma the way I think of it is “What goes up must come down…eventually and when it does the force of gravity will hit you 10 times worse”. I beg you not to do anything with ill intentions but simply befriend your enemies and love them like any other. Not only are you annoying them even more which may lead them do worse things behind your back but you’re also giving our good friend karma more to add to the delivery package when it returns to sender :).

Now enough of the planning all in all it really is Survival Of The Fittest in more ways than one and you all want to make sure you can run just a bit just in case of a disaster ;).

Sorry if this post is a bit too erm… dark ? but after all I have to post about what I’m truly feeling and hopefully it helps you too.

 

 

Have a nice evening 🙂 Xx

Life in a phone.

Today I had a traumatic experience!. I thought I would have lost all my memories from the past,reminders,contact information the whole lot. This morning when I woke up my iPhone had switched off by itself and lost 100% battery over night whilst I was asleep. I was just thinking I can’t live without my phone, I need It for my everyday life. I spend A LOT   of time on my phone and I can honestly say ” I Can’t Imagine My Life Without My iPhone!!”.

That got me thinking, It’s a bit sad that we live in an era where losing our phone means more to us than losing something much more valuable. When I say valuable I don’t mean in the sense of money. I guess its how society has moved us along right ?. They say that we are losing the ability to have a conversation in person rather than behind a screen. Could be true,So that’s why we should try to go out for drinks more often rather than say what we feel behind a screen. Although I am sure this is happens to all of us, especially the panic over our phones. How would I tweet my insane thoughts ?!- Yes I am a Twitter addict!. lol

That is all,hope you enjoyed todays short post 😀 x

Don’t Regret It, Don’t Question It – Accept & Learn.

Happy Monday bloggers! Can you call Monday happy? lol unless it’s a bank holiday!. Hope you all had a nice weekend!.

I sometimes feel like an advice guru with my friends.  Not saying that I’m the best at giving advice but I seem to be the one to go to these days and I don’t mind that at all. If I can help a friend in need then that’s why I’m here. After all friends are here to help take some stress off one another,a shoulder to cry on and most importantly fun to be around. Anyway I do learn a lot listening to different problems and the different situations. Some people do get themselves in quite the situation and sometimes I feel as they couldn’t have made a bigger mistake however I never judge their actions but I do try to calm them down and tell them that in the future all this happened to contribute to a bigger picture. This is what I wanted to blog about today, I just want everyone to know that it is Okay to make a mistake and to repeat that mistake a couple of times if its needed  but don’t stay stuck with the “What If’s”, Just move on and depend on your friends to help you move forward. If there’s something I believe in its this. Every bad choice you make in life,every wrong turn you make,every fight and every friendship , there is for a reason for it. How would we know how to differentiate between a good and bad friend if we had not trusted someone whom we shouldn’t have ? How would we not know NOT to do that same action again if we hadn’t done it before?. Especially with friendships,I am sure that most of you think “I wish I had never met him/her”. Stop there, think at one point you must have had fun ? and most importantly did that friendship introduce you to better friends today?. Ask yourself questions TODAY,not questions on what happened yesterday but what and who is in your life today and who you think will be in your life tomorrow.

It’s all in the posts title “Don’t Regret It,Don’t Question It but Accept & Learn from it”. Don’t fight fate,embrace it and by that you will let happiness enter your life and soon you will realise that the bad choices or mistakes that had once took over your mind was nothing but a small glitch along the way to your happiness today. 🙂

Thank you for reading bloggers 🙂 Feel free to Like,Comment or Share 😀 x

Negative Friends & People

Hey bloggers, its been quite sometime since I’ve blogged. Its good to take a couple of weeks off so you can go through new experiences that will make your blog just that tiny bit better. Hope you have ALL been well, remember if you need some advice or simply someone to talk to go to my “Contact” page and just send me a little e-mail.

Today’s blog  post is about our everyday surroundings. Especially the whole Monday – Friday routine, don’t know about most of you but yes,sadly I have a routine during the week. Everyday starts with WORK. Now I am lucky that I work with two of my closest friends so it does make work more fun at times but at times it’s also a curse in disguise. Spending so much time with someone can put a strain on any relationship. Now,our thoughts,actions and general outcome of the day all depends on our spiritual energy. By this I mean how we feel. Sure we all have  bad days,its normal we are human!. Can we prevent some of these days? Simple answer is YES . Speaking from personal experience I have noticed that some of my closest friends carry this negative vibe most of the time. Saying this I must point out that this,by any means this does NOT make them a bad friend or a bad person. Its their look on life’s situations and their reaction which makes them become a negative person. Spend the first couple of hours of your new day with a negative vibe around you and your mind will adapt to it subconsciously. If this happens you will find yourself not dealing with daily situations as easy as it may seem.

One of my closest friends,when i look at her it’s like looking at a rainbow or the sun (Cheesy i know). She is just full of positivity you can tell a mile away. Spending the day with her will lift you’re spirits up,it will give you an energy that you won’t realise where it came from.  I deeply believe in vibes,auras and energies,it’s what breaks as down as individuals. Looking at the good side of things will help you as a person and then it will have a positive effect on your life. Also some things that may help at being at peace with yourself are by treating others how you wish to be treated yourself,let go of trying to control people and situations and most importantly try to look at the positive side of things.

So a little task for you all is – When you find yourself in company with a negative vibe try to make it positive. It’s easy,maybe you and your friend are discussing a topic that every conclusion to that topic ends in a negative frame of mind. Try and think and turn it around. Mix more with positive thoughts and the energy will follow.

 

Have a good day 🙂

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Lessons Or Mistakes

Did I make a mistake ? – Will I learn from it ? – Was there a reason for that to happen how it did ?.

I bet that you have asked yourself those questions at some point, especially when you’re going through a bad patch. Answers are, Yes you made a mistake and yes, you will learn from it. If you go back to one of my earlier posts I do strongly believe in that “Everything Happens For A  Reason”.  Life truly is like school the only way you learn is by doing it wrong but instead of having a teacher correct your mistakes you,yourself will have to be your life’s own teacher. You will only receive guidance when you’re growing up and from that ,later on in life you will be able to teach yourself when you make an error in life. We are all brought up differently but I hope that we can all tell the difference between what’s right and wrong.

I made a mistake in life around 2 years ago and I was hoping that no one would find out. Stupid of me thinking that as I live in a small place. Don’t worry I didn’t do anything illegal haha. It’s a mistake that I was worried that would make others see me differently. We all know small towns means a lot of gossip and everyone knowing everyone it was bound to get out. I admit to being scared of what the outcome is.  What if more people find out ? but all I can do is wait and let nature takes its course I suppose. I believe that everything is happening how it is for a reason. I have big nerves in my stomach when I think about it and I go through these mood swings but I’ll let you know in a little secret – I’m Human. So I will embrace future mistakes,learn from it and hope for the best! as for now I hope this goes by so I can live comfortably again.

Hope you have a good one 🙂

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Words Hurt!

Hey Bloggers, so for those of you that have read my previous post you will know that i went out last night with friends. We were joking around etc but then as a “joke” they said somethings that i did not take as a joke. I know the classic response to this would be “Its just a joke, don’t be like that” etc etc but they were personal things and as close friends i think they should know better right? At least I thought they did.

I always try,when making jokes not to make them personal or about things we have shared about in a private conversation. Makes me think when im not around, do they speak about me ? . I know they speak to me about others and confide in me not to say a word. Yet again If they speak to me about others whats stopping them from doing the same with others about me ?. I guess it all takes trust? and trust is a thing that is easily broken and never repaired no matter how much you try. EVERYONE is vulnerable no matter how much they try to precieve they are not. but they calls for another post another day don’t want to ramble on too much! . For now i will enjoy my evening,will be going out for dinner with some friends 🙂

– Remember When Making Jokes Don’t Make Them To Personal,Or Try To View Your Friends Reaction To See If They’ve Taken It The Wrong Way-

have a good night! xx

Update From Yesterdays Blog Post!

Hey Bloggers, just a quick blog update. So If you read yesterdays blog post it speaks about how you should voice your opinion no matter what, you view is as good as anyone else’s.

Well last night i went out with some of my closest friends and we were speaking,joking around etc the usual,however as “jokes” some of them did say some comments in which i didn’t find that funny to be honest (Might blog about this later on today). After this i wasn’t in a very good mood so i was just basically giving my honest opinion in every situation and i was told that i  seemed “Unhappy and Grumpy” – To be honest i felt like saying “No – I’m just speaking the truth and how i feel why cover it up”. I didn’t to avoid conflict to be honest but i suppose then the phrase “Honesty Is The Best Policy” is not entirely true and sometimes your opinions should be kept to yourself in order to avoid any conflicts or hurting any-ones feelings.

Have a nice day, watch out for a post later on :).