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Are We ALL Becoming Attention Seekers ? – My Thoughts !

Hey bloggers, I know it’s been a while and I have had this topic at the back of my mind for a couple of weeks now. 10 Years ago I suppose society was VERY different as to what it is today. Attention seekers worked harder to get their attention and noticed and fewer people wanted to be noticed. Do we realise that we are becoming attention seekers? I mean 10 years ago how would you grab someone’s attention without posting anything on any social network sites.

 

Are you an attention seeker? – I think we all are in one way or another. How many of you have Facebook or Twitter? Most if not all I’m sure and some of you will probably use other social networking sites like Tumbler etc. These social networking sites are designed in a way that makes us want to get noticed. On Facebook for example we “update our status” with the intentions for others to read it and later “Like” or Comment. Every day we post (Myself including) the little things everyone does in everyday life, things like the food we eat or what we drink on Facebook just so people will see and know what you’re doing. On Twitter I find people are more open (Myself Included) and people tend to share deeper thoughts even those that when posted on facebook may get a negative feedback.

 

Do we paint this pretty picture on Facebook? – I think most of us paint this mirage of ourselves on Facebook. We all want to be accepted by the majority of society so we post what we think will be “Liked” and accepted by others and with the hope that we will be, in return liked more by others and become that slightly more popular. I think we all post just what we want others to see obviously that is why we control it right? But don’t we all have darker thoughts? Not so nice thoughts that should be shared. After all Facebook does ask “What’s On Your Mind”, On many occasions I have posted an update saying “ Facebook keeps on asking me “What’s on my mind” but I’m scared if I post I will shock a lot of people!” Which I’m sure I will. At the end of the day we all seek acceptance by others and I think Social Networking sites like the ones I mentioned earlier play a bit part in it all. Maybe we don’t all realise it but I think it is getting worse. I am too a victim of this but a couple of weeks ago I was having a discussion with a friend who they claim they “don’t care what others think” So I pointed this out, we all use the edit features for the pictures, we all act as if we have this perfect life on facebook but behind that screen many of us have more insecurities than what we may know we have! Problem is, if we paint this picture too big how can we live up to it?

Hope I haven’t rumbles too much on this, Let me know your thoughts no matter how good or bad:) if you like please Like, Share & Comment!

 

Have a nice day 🙂

Don’t Regret It, Don’t Question It – Accept & Learn.

Happy Monday bloggers! Can you call Monday happy? lol unless it’s a bank holiday!. Hope you all had a nice weekend!.

I sometimes feel like an advice guru with my friends.  Not saying that I’m the best at giving advice but I seem to be the one to go to these days and I don’t mind that at all. If I can help a friend in need then that’s why I’m here. After all friends are here to help take some stress off one another,a shoulder to cry on and most importantly fun to be around. Anyway I do learn a lot listening to different problems and the different situations. Some people do get themselves in quite the situation and sometimes I feel as they couldn’t have made a bigger mistake however I never judge their actions but I do try to calm them down and tell them that in the future all this happened to contribute to a bigger picture. This is what I wanted to blog about today, I just want everyone to know that it is Okay to make a mistake and to repeat that mistake a couple of times if its needed  but don’t stay stuck with the “What If’s”, Just move on and depend on your friends to help you move forward. If there’s something I believe in its this. Every bad choice you make in life,every wrong turn you make,every fight and every friendship , there is for a reason for it. How would we know how to differentiate between a good and bad friend if we had not trusted someone whom we shouldn’t have ? How would we not know NOT to do that same action again if we hadn’t done it before?. Especially with friendships,I am sure that most of you think “I wish I had never met him/her”. Stop there, think at one point you must have had fun ? and most importantly did that friendship introduce you to better friends today?. Ask yourself questions TODAY,not questions on what happened yesterday but what and who is in your life today and who you think will be in your life tomorrow.

It’s all in the posts title “Don’t Regret It,Don’t Question It but Accept & Learn from it”. Don’t fight fate,embrace it and by that you will let happiness enter your life and soon you will realise that the bad choices or mistakes that had once took over your mind was nothing but a small glitch along the way to your happiness today. 🙂

Thank you for reading bloggers 🙂 Feel free to Like,Comment or Share 😀 x

Negative Friends & People

Hey bloggers, its been quite sometime since I’ve blogged. Its good to take a couple of weeks off so you can go through new experiences that will make your blog just that tiny bit better. Hope you have ALL been well, remember if you need some advice or simply someone to talk to go to my “Contact” page and just send me a little e-mail.

Today’s blog  post is about our everyday surroundings. Especially the whole Monday – Friday routine, don’t know about most of you but yes,sadly I have a routine during the week. Everyday starts with WORK. Now I am lucky that I work with two of my closest friends so it does make work more fun at times but at times it’s also a curse in disguise. Spending so much time with someone can put a strain on any relationship. Now,our thoughts,actions and general outcome of the day all depends on our spiritual energy. By this I mean how we feel. Sure we all have  bad days,its normal we are human!. Can we prevent some of these days? Simple answer is YES . Speaking from personal experience I have noticed that some of my closest friends carry this negative vibe most of the time. Saying this I must point out that this,by any means this does NOT make them a bad friend or a bad person. Its their look on life’s situations and their reaction which makes them become a negative person. Spend the first couple of hours of your new day with a negative vibe around you and your mind will adapt to it subconsciously. If this happens you will find yourself not dealing with daily situations as easy as it may seem.

One of my closest friends,when i look at her it’s like looking at a rainbow or the sun (Cheesy i know). She is just full of positivity you can tell a mile away. Spending the day with her will lift you’re spirits up,it will give you an energy that you won’t realise where it came from.  I deeply believe in vibes,auras and energies,it’s what breaks as down as individuals. Looking at the good side of things will help you as a person and then it will have a positive effect on your life. Also some things that may help at being at peace with yourself are by treating others how you wish to be treated yourself,let go of trying to control people and situations and most importantly try to look at the positive side of things.

So a little task for you all is – When you find yourself in company with a negative vibe try to make it positive. It’s easy,maybe you and your friend are discussing a topic that every conclusion to that topic ends in a negative frame of mind. Try and think and turn it around. Mix more with positive thoughts and the energy will follow.

 

Have a good day 🙂

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Lessons Or Mistakes

Did I make a mistake ? – Will I learn from it ? – Was there a reason for that to happen how it did ?.

I bet that you have asked yourself those questions at some point, especially when you’re going through a bad patch. Answers are, Yes you made a mistake and yes, you will learn from it. If you go back to one of my earlier posts I do strongly believe in that “Everything Happens For A  Reason”.  Life truly is like school the only way you learn is by doing it wrong but instead of having a teacher correct your mistakes you,yourself will have to be your life’s own teacher. You will only receive guidance when you’re growing up and from that ,later on in life you will be able to teach yourself when you make an error in life. We are all brought up differently but I hope that we can all tell the difference between what’s right and wrong.

I made a mistake in life around 2 years ago and I was hoping that no one would find out. Stupid of me thinking that as I live in a small place. Don’t worry I didn’t do anything illegal haha. It’s a mistake that I was worried that would make others see me differently. We all know small towns means a lot of gossip and everyone knowing everyone it was bound to get out. I admit to being scared of what the outcome is.  What if more people find out ? but all I can do is wait and let nature takes its course I suppose. I believe that everything is happening how it is for a reason. I have big nerves in my stomach when I think about it and I go through these mood swings but I’ll let you know in a little secret – I’m Human. So I will embrace future mistakes,learn from it and hope for the best! as for now I hope this goes by so I can live comfortably again.

Hope you have a good one 🙂

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Normal? Or Socially Acceptable!

Hey bloggers 🙂 , Have any of your friends ever told you “you’re not normal” . I’m sure they have, mine do quite a lot lol. Especially with one of my close friends who I speak to for hours a day so eventually we tend to speak about silly things and make long conversations about anything really. I also say Whats the fun in being normal ? Really what is ?. Actually can anyone define “Being Normal?” I believe there is no such thing as “being normal”. Every person has their own thoughts on what normal is. Depends on the person’s state of mind is how they categorize what is normal and what is not. You have some people that are louder than others, so whilst one thinks it is “normal” to shout the other thinks ” he’s acting up”.

Many of us mistake some actions as not being normal just because it would be too embarrassing therefore it’s not socially acceptable,by this i mean minor actions and not any anti-social behaviour. We live in an era where celebrities and TV shows dictate most of our actions in everyday life. (Don’t get me wrong I’m guilty as charged) , What you see on tv is manufactured to look as close to perfect as it can possibly can so its alright not to have the things you see on TV or magazines or to look how they look. So be loud, have fun and let your hair down 🙂 Do what feels right and just let your soul come out. People will love you more for it.

Have a nice daybloggers 🙂

PJ’s Dream :) Share yours to!

Hey bloggers 🙂 – So we all have a dream…No! we actually have more than one type of dream. A dream that you can achieve and a dream which the chances of happening are around 0.00000000000000000000000000000001% (If that even is an accurate percentage but hey,lets pretend it is :)). So I will tell you my unrealistic dream and I’m sure all of you will have thought something similar to this.

So my unrealistic dream is to win the big Euromillions jackpot (£££££). Yes all those millions and I have plans for them to!. Well maybe not a plan to spend ALL of the money. Firstly i would give some to my mum,who by far is the person whom i look up to the most. Then i would give to my 2 older sisters and lastly i would open a savings account for my adorable nieces. Okay boring part over. So, my plan is obviously quit my day-to-day job. Will probably travel A LOT more go partying here and there becasue at the end of the day YOLO (You Only Live Once). After a year im guessing ill be ready to settle down. Now i always say that actors/actress have perfect bodies because they don’t have a 5 or 6 day week jobs, so their time is devoted at the gym. I would do the same i will go more to the gym than what i do now (which to be honest i hardly go haha). Apart from that i would like to do some volunteer work with R.I.C.C ( Research Into Childhood Cancer) . It’s a trust which I feel strongly about  so I will also devote my time to them. Last by not least ,as most people would, i would buy a nice big house with a pool,jacuzzi and maybe built-in gym! ? haha… Oh! Don’t worry my blogging wouldn’t end actually…I would blog even more!.

However that is a fantasy which I think having a fantasy is healthy for the soul. Gives you something to hope for i suppose.

Realistically speaking now,i would like to study Psychology and become a child psychologist OR go into nursing. I don’t know what it is and this may sound weird to some of you but there’s something inside of me that tells me i was put on this earth to do something greater. I think i can achieve that by helping others,There are others out there that need more help than I do and by reaching out and doing that I feel I would have actually done something worthy with my life.

It is important to know that you ,yourself can achieve anything you want in life and don’t let others tell you otherwise. If you are determined and work hard enough for it you WILL achieve your dream 🙂 I know it is very cliché of me to say that but I honestly do believe in it.

Well that is all 🙂 Hope you liked my Dreams 😀 Share yours to 🙂 Feel free to share my blog 🙂 Have a nice day x

Words Hurt!

Hey Bloggers, so for those of you that have read my previous post you will know that i went out last night with friends. We were joking around etc but then as a “joke” they said somethings that i did not take as a joke. I know the classic response to this would be “Its just a joke, don’t be like that” etc etc but they were personal things and as close friends i think they should know better right? At least I thought they did.

I always try,when making jokes not to make them personal or about things we have shared about in a private conversation. Makes me think when im not around, do they speak about me ? . I know they speak to me about others and confide in me not to say a word. Yet again If they speak to me about others whats stopping them from doing the same with others about me ?. I guess it all takes trust? and trust is a thing that is easily broken and never repaired no matter how much you try. EVERYONE is vulnerable no matter how much they try to precieve they are not. but they calls for another post another day don’t want to ramble on too much! . For now i will enjoy my evening,will be going out for dinner with some friends 🙂

– Remember When Making Jokes Don’t Make Them To Personal,Or Try To View Your Friends Reaction To See If They’ve Taken It The Wrong Way-

have a good night! xx

Update From Yesterdays Blog Post!

Hey Bloggers, just a quick blog update. So If you read yesterdays blog post it speaks about how you should voice your opinion no matter what, you view is as good as anyone else’s.

Well last night i went out with some of my closest friends and we were speaking,joking around etc the usual,however as “jokes” some of them did say some comments in which i didn’t find that funny to be honest (Might blog about this later on today). After this i wasn’t in a very good mood so i was just basically giving my honest opinion in every situation and i was told that i  seemed “Unhappy and Grumpy” – To be honest i felt like saying “No – I’m just speaking the truth and how i feel why cover it up”. I didn’t to avoid conflict to be honest but i suppose then the phrase “Honesty Is The Best Policy” is not entirely true and sometimes your opinions should be kept to yourself in order to avoid any conflicts or hurting any-ones feelings.

Have a nice day, watch out for a post later on :).

Seeking Comfort

Hey bloggers,
Losing someone is a very hard time in anyones life, whether we lost someone who was older or younger. Sometimes we all want to be selfish and hold on to them even thou they might be suffering.When i lost my gran i remember some people kept asking for her age and when i said “87” i kept getting similar replies ” Ahh,well she was old”. Yes,Yes she was but she was also loved and she will be loved and very much missed, age doesn’t justify anyones death- Yes its a tragic when we lose someone at a young age and makes us think “why them?” , i like to think they had a higher purpose to serve somewhere else and maybe they wouldn’t have a nice life here with us.

I don’t know about you readers but i believe in more that what meets the eye, a deeper meaning to all of us. I believe in spirits and ghosts and when you lose someone close to your heart they will always be able to hear your thought and even protect you. My aunt went to a medium ( Most of tarot readers etc i don’t tend to believe in ) But this one mentioned somethings that my mum knew but my aunt knew and my gran apparently said that she is watching over my niece, whom she loved dearly.So if you have lost anyone close to you, just think they are in peace now,away from pain and if you want to speak to them,do so! maybe not out loud but in your mind and in your heart because their spirits stay with us and guides us.

That is all,hope you liked it,have a nice day!

Peace x

Respect!

Hey bloggers,

Hope you’ve had a nice week-end :D. Weather was LOVELY here! I hope its the same this weekend 😀

So the other day I used the bus and i saw something that annoyed me and i’m shocked that i stayed quiet . I don’t know where you live but where i’m from the buses have seats at the front which should have priority to the elderly or disabled people who wish to sit down. Well i was sat close to the end of the bus and i saw this elderly man walk in and all the seats upfront were occupied by elderly people apart from these 2 girls – they must have been 17-19 years of age at the most. They saw this man with a walking stick which helped him move at a slow pace get on the bus and they knew that all other seats for the elderly were taken. They saw him looking and its not like the bus was full, no! the bus had plenty of free seats around but the poor man couldn’t walk to the other seats because there’s a step or two. My way of thinking and being is just ask the elderly person the seat and i can stand seeing as i am young. These girls did not even offer the seat they just carried on speaking.

I live in a small place so we are a tight community these things shouldn’t happen  and they get me so frustrated!. Another elderly man stood up and gave his seat to this man. Obviously other people started moaning about these young girls not even offering the seat and to my surprise the girls gave such a dirty look!. Honestly i don’t know how i remained so calm throughout this journey.

Where has manners,respect for others gone ? – I’m only 20 years old, so i will not generalise but I’m just wondering What would you have done ? Surely not like these girls?

*Need to have a nice tea now to calm myself  *

Have a nice day 😀