Category Archives: confidence

Now I’m A Warrior !

Hey bloggers 🙂 Apologies for not posting a blog in a Long time ! . Hope you’re all well 🙂

I recently bought a book ( Not an e-book but an actual book with pages !!) from Demi Lovato , anyone heard of her ? I’m sure you have. The book is called Staying Strong 365 days a year and basically it has famous quotes then Demi’s reflection on that quote for that day and she adds a little goal for you for the day. It truly is an inspirational book filled with some amazing quotes and goals !. I will add a link to her book here Demi Lovato – Staying Strong 365 Days A Year I think it gives you a page or 2 of the book for you to read :)!

Every night I always read the next days page right before going to bed and here is tomorrow’s page ( December 9th)

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The quote is from her song Warrior from her latest album Demi. It’s said to be a follow up song from her hit single Skyscraper and the lyrics in both songs are so inspirational!. Getting back to tomorrow’s page, She wrote the song to help so many people who are going through a bad time and just to remind them
That it does get better . Many of us ,everyday, walk down town or even read and see pictures on Facebook or Twitter and make fun of what we see … Not knowing how that person feels ,or what that person is going through. I always try and think twice before making a prejudgement of what I see and hear and consider what that other person must be going through, for example, if you see a picture of a guy/girl who may be over weight  most of us will make fun and insult right ? Well maybe that person has a medical reason as to why he/she cannot lose weight and gets picked on everyday for something she can’t change!. So what I ask from
You today is to think before you judge and consider the other persons feeling and situation.

Oh and check out Demi’s album because it is amazing !! If you need to contact me for whatever reason feel free so by sending me an e-mail via my contact page located on the tab above or just click HERE.

 

🙂 Goodnight bloggers x

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Are We ALL Becoming Attention Seekers ? – My Thoughts !

Hey bloggers, I know it’s been a while and I have had this topic at the back of my mind for a couple of weeks now. 10 Years ago I suppose society was VERY different as to what it is today. Attention seekers worked harder to get their attention and noticed and fewer people wanted to be noticed. Do we realise that we are becoming attention seekers? I mean 10 years ago how would you grab someone’s attention without posting anything on any social network sites.

 

Are you an attention seeker? – I think we all are in one way or another. How many of you have Facebook or Twitter? Most if not all I’m sure and some of you will probably use other social networking sites like Tumbler etc. These social networking sites are designed in a way that makes us want to get noticed. On Facebook for example we “update our status” with the intentions for others to read it and later “Like” or Comment. Every day we post (Myself including) the little things everyone does in everyday life, things like the food we eat or what we drink on Facebook just so people will see and know what you’re doing. On Twitter I find people are more open (Myself Included) and people tend to share deeper thoughts even those that when posted on facebook may get a negative feedback.

 

Do we paint this pretty picture on Facebook? – I think most of us paint this mirage of ourselves on Facebook. We all want to be accepted by the majority of society so we post what we think will be “Liked” and accepted by others and with the hope that we will be, in return liked more by others and become that slightly more popular. I think we all post just what we want others to see obviously that is why we control it right? But don’t we all have darker thoughts? Not so nice thoughts that should be shared. After all Facebook does ask “What’s On Your Mind”, On many occasions I have posted an update saying “ Facebook keeps on asking me “What’s on my mind” but I’m scared if I post I will shock a lot of people!” Which I’m sure I will. At the end of the day we all seek acceptance by others and I think Social Networking sites like the ones I mentioned earlier play a bit part in it all. Maybe we don’t all realise it but I think it is getting worse. I am too a victim of this but a couple of weeks ago I was having a discussion with a friend who they claim they “don’t care what others think” So I pointed this out, we all use the edit features for the pictures, we all act as if we have this perfect life on facebook but behind that screen many of us have more insecurities than what we may know we have! Problem is, if we paint this picture too big how can we live up to it?

Hope I haven’t rumbles too much on this, Let me know your thoughts no matter how good or bad:) if you like please Like, Share & Comment!

 

Have a nice day 🙂

Am I THAT insecure ?

Hey bloggers , so my last post was how I promised I would be going back to the gym and so I did. I was rather excited to go for  a little workout especially since it had been so long and I usually feel bad if I eat a lot of junk food and just stay at home on the sofa. When I got to the gym I realised a lot of new faces around and they were rather young to,I’d say around 16-18 at the most but that’s fine anyone can go to the gym, doesn’t bother me at all right? Hmm maybe it did just a bit. I went to what I call the “abs section” which is basically an area with the mats and medicine balls and this area is literally next to some machines for the chest area. The group of young lads were all around this area using the machines and I was just there on the mat not being able to concentrate on my workout or even do it properly because I was so conscious of them being there. I just kept telling myself “Why should I care what they think of me or how I’m doing my workouts?”. Although that is easier said than done,this all did bother me as I was in such a good mood wanting to have a good workout and suddenly it all went down hill,I got up from the mat and just moved to another area of the gym where I felt more comfortable whereas in that area I kept looking down not wanting to lift my head up and I even turned down the volume on my music just in case I overheard a comment or even if they could hear my music and that might make them judge me even more.

I know I have always been insecure,not liking how I look and basically having low self-esteem. Lets just say on my Facebook profile you won’t find any pictures of me in front of a mirror doing a pose,not that I find anything wrong with that.If you are confident with yourself you should do it after all, do what you think is right and each to their own. I admire those who can take those pictures and actually look good in them. Thinking on what has happened I have become slightly more judgemental on myself which is against what I believe in. I’m not one to add this fake persona for the world to see, I am me and that is it really. I know everyone has some sort of insecurity,even those people who act like if they love themselves and nothing can break them down.

Wait a second … Maybe my insecurities were making me a bit paranoid and hyped up everything that was going on ? Maybe they weren’t taking a notice of me and if they were, Would their opinion of me affect my life in any way?. I think we are all craving social acceptance especially when we are in situations like having a workout and having groups of people next to you which might leave you a bit vulnerable. Maybe I should apply more of what I believe into my life, maybe I should become more accepting of who I am and not let judgements affect me. So here I will say ” I know I’m not the guy with the dreamy abs or bulging biceps but that is me”. Tomorrow I will head to the gym again and if it were to happen again all I can do is try my best not to let it affect me.

Thank you readers and I apologise if I ranted on a bit.

Are you insecure about yourself? Try to come out of it,whoever puts you down should not have a place in your heart or life! Time is precious and we should spend it with those who love us for who we are. Be better be you 🙂

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Envy !

Hey bloggers ! How are you all enjoying the nice winter ?.

So envy , that’s the topic today :). I’m not talking about the simple day to day “omg I’m jealous of his abs or her hair”. I’m talking about the envy we all have deep inside. Some of us won’t know that the feeling we currently have is indeed envy!. How many of you admit of this envy ? How many of you share it with the world and let the world, SOCIETY judge you upon that remark?. I know i have yet to do that but today I shall change that. I will open up and admit to one of my ” Seven Deadliest Sins “.

TALENT – that is it. That is my envy plain and simple. I’m envious of others talents. Don’t think I’m jealous of EVERYONE who has a talent in singing or drawing and whatever their talent may be. However I’m most envious of those who never tried in school, those who spent more time in detention than in classes and those who were never bothered about school or their education. Those are the ones I’m envious and at times I think why do I not have a talent ?. I honestly don’t think I have any talent and it does get me down. I know if they have a talent it is for a reason and they were given it for a greater purpose but then I think ” well? What is mine then?”. That is purely my deepest envy! I also think what gets me the most is that I did not work towards any talent to perfect it!

So bloggers what is your deepest envy ?

Have a good night – Like – Comment – Share 🙂 x

Social Labels

So I know I’ve written about stereotypes before in my blog. I think “Social Labels” is a topic I feel strongly about because it deals so much damage to a person’s mind and self-esteem,however we are all to blame for this because one way or another we all contribute into giving others labels. How you ask ? – Not me ! you say.  Most of us do it unknowingly maybe some sort of natural reaction in our minds?.

How many of you walk down town alone with your music on whilst day dreaming ?. Many of you I imagine, but all of a sudden you see this guy with the tightest pair of pants, make-up on and a fur coat . Most of you, in your head will say “Omg,he’s gay” or the erm “not so nice” people would think ” What a Fa**t”,sadly it does happen. How many of you see a person in McDonald’s having a large meal and that person just happens to look over weight. How many of you think to yourself ” She needs a diet” or any nasty comments you may share with friends or keep to yourself without knowing whether or not this person as an underlining health condition that will not allow her to lose weight. I am also guilty of this from time to time but then I complain when I hear others giving people a label. It infuriates me but am I no better ? Do I not have those thoughts ?. Sure I don’t act on them and I will NEVER laugh at someone’s expense but I think those things at times. Is it normal ? At the end of the day we should control our thoughts. Maybe we  label others in order to feel better about ourselves,boost ourself esteem and confidence.

I Am single, so I am labelled as being Single fair enough, does it stop there ? NO! as most people will carry on as to why they THINK I am still single. Well bloggers here is a little secret of my own that I will share with you on why I am single. I love being single, I do not desire being in a relationship. Why force something when my mind and heart are not asking for it ?. I let everything take its course, I dislike it when you hear people who are “looking” and by looking I mean desperately looking for another half. Sure being interested in someone is nothing wrong ,by far! What I mean here is those who jump from relationship to relationship just for the sake of it. I like my “freedom” and my space. Besides if I were to get into a relationship most of my blog posts would be less interesting (assuming you all find this interesting :)).

The worse label at the moment in today’s society is being called “GAY”. Let me just express how much that kills me inside that in the year we are in people are still being bullied over their sexual orientation . Something that is beyond their control and at the end of the day its a part of who they are. How many teens commit suicide because they can no longer handle the pressure of keeping the secret or because they are being bullied and they suffer in silence. For those of you in this current situation there is a project called the “It Gets Better Project” that I will link at the end of this post. Apart from that if you need anyone to talk to remember my contact page is at the top and feel free to use it!.

My conclusion is – We all hate being labelled! but how many times a day do we label someone without knowing we are doing so ?. Can we try to change this in our lives ? I think so. Keeping those thoughts to yourself and not acting on them will better you as a person and may help others to.

Here is the “It Gets Better” link. http://www.itgetsbetter.org/.

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Normal? Or Socially Acceptable!

Hey bloggers 🙂 , Have any of your friends ever told you “you’re not normal” . I’m sure they have, mine do quite a lot lol. Especially with one of my close friends who I speak to for hours a day so eventually we tend to speak about silly things and make long conversations about anything really. I also say Whats the fun in being normal ? Really what is ?. Actually can anyone define “Being Normal?” I believe there is no such thing as “being normal”. Every person has their own thoughts on what normal is. Depends on the person’s state of mind is how they categorize what is normal and what is not. You have some people that are louder than others, so whilst one thinks it is “normal” to shout the other thinks ” he’s acting up”.

Many of us mistake some actions as not being normal just because it would be too embarrassing therefore it’s not socially acceptable,by this i mean minor actions and not any anti-social behaviour. We live in an era where celebrities and TV shows dictate most of our actions in everyday life. (Don’t get me wrong I’m guilty as charged) , What you see on tv is manufactured to look as close to perfect as it can possibly can so its alright not to have the things you see on TV or magazines or to look how they look. So be loud, have fun and let your hair down 🙂 Do what feels right and just let your soul come out. People will love you more for it.

Have a nice daybloggers 🙂

Summer Is Around The Corner . . . Don’t panic ! Or Do ?

Hey Bloggers,

It is coming! and i bet most of us are feeling guilty about most things that we are eating. We all want these perfect summer bodies, I know I do! When I eat junk food I feel so guilty for eating it. Although I like going to the gym, that great feeling  I get after a workout. I love it ! So i advice if you want a summer body, PLEASE do it for yourself and not for others at the end of the day it is your body, you choose how to live as long as it isn’t affecting your health.

I hate watching films with actors like Zac Efron who have the perfect body, they make me feel bad! Anyways i know this is a bit of a superficial post but it is what most of us think. Well i do 🙂 Here is a link to a video that gives you some Ab exercises and all you need is a sofa!!! Try these out 😀 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3fU_8kJeXeE.

When you feel good about yourself you are bound to have a better day and a better view on things that will be coming your way 😀

Let me know what you think !

 

Peace ;D x

Use your day to the fullest ! Conquer a F.E.A.R

Hey bloggers!,

Today i have conquered a fear! What a day it has been! The nerves, fear,Dry mouth and dry throat. I have never been a confident driver so I never go driving into Spain, I always make one of my friends drive instead but today my friend said “it’s about time you were strong and do this” . At first i was just thinking “Omg I can’t, NO way! we will crash!”. Obviously its one of those “mind over matter” type of things. I had butterflies in my stomach ( Actually that is an understatement, they felt more like dragons haha ) but through her guidance and help we got to our destination in one piece and i thought to myself (not admitting it of course) “this isn’t as bad as I thought it would be” .

I think with the combination of our fear and imagination our mind ,being as powerful as it is, creates these scenarios that really would not happen in a million years! .. So, What i am trying to get at is.. When you have a free day to yourself use it wisely. Do something that your mind holds you back from doing! Something you would like to do but you fear from it! Conquer your fear and later i will promise you, you will feel like you’re on top of the world! (oh and don’t take this the wrong way, don’t do drugs and stuff that will damage your health haha )

Have a nice day 😀 I did and i feel great!

Awareness

Hey bloggers ! So today I have started to read a book ! I’m not much of a reader but when it comes to Deepak Chopra I love his work!.
The book I’m reading is called

The book of secrets

I’ve only gone about a chapter into this book and this paragraph out of many that have already inspired me jumps out! It outlines one of our faults as humans that we are! Faults that bring hostility to
The mind and create tension within out environment! Here’s the paragraph

Awareness: I will spend ten minutes observing instead of speaking. I will sit quietly by myself just to sense how my body feels. If someone irritates me, I will ask myself what I really feel beneath the anger—and I won’t stop paying attention until the anger is gone

. Today I will go on a hike up the rock I might post something about it tonight but for now I will practise what is said in that paragraph! It’s so easy to just hate someone before giving them a chance! Do we really know them!? Why do we prejudge?? Maybe they are going through a bad time and needs support from friends and we are just prejudging them with no reason!
So I ask you to take a time and just get to know then abit more before getting worked up! Whats the worst that could happen??

Have a nice day 🙂 peacex

Hey Bloggers!, How many of you have heard of Kelly Clarkson ? If you have click on her name 😀 It will forward you to her webpage!. She won American Idol many years ago..(2002 i think ? ) But i heard of her after she had won because i don’t watch American Idol!… Anyways her newest album “Stronger” which i HIGHLY recommend has a song called “You Can’t Win” and in my opinion it is one of the most Controversial songs that i have heard ( In a good way). It basically describes how you as an individual ,can never please anyone no matter what you do! I will post a YouTube video with the lyrics here..Check it Out 😀 Have a nice day 😀 Peace xx

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lSGJTnoTH0A