Friends Forever. . . But Is It True ?

Hey bloggers, So as some of you may know this blog is about my random thoughts,experiences etc and recently I have been thinking about the term “Friends Forever” and the validity of that saying. Are friends really forever ? I’m not quite sure anymore. One simple question . . Are you as close as you were with your bestest best friend from primary school ?. I know I’m not , in fact I’m not as close with my friends from comprehensive school.

The term Best Friend is a term which I never use. I despise it! Why call a friend (Or a number of friends) you’re best friend ?. Do you have worst friends ? If they’re in the worst category surely that means they are not a friend at all. Sure I have close friends in which I speak to on a daily basis and we swap our problems but I wouldn’t call her a best friend. Why should I label my friends into categories ? I just don’t like it but I think this is just a matter of opinion.

So what has brought this question to my mind ? I know most of us aren’t best friends with our primary school friends. LIFE , most people think of life and think “I want to get married and have a family” and rightly so they think that most us of do, don’t we ?. The teen years are the years where you mostly hang around your friends and go out etc until you find your boyfriend/girlfriend and that is where my question comes in. In the past as many of you, if not all have experienced have had friends who started getting in a relationship and you just see less and less of them as time goes by. Understandably if they love each other they wish to spend as much time together as possible and that’s where some friendships end. A Number of years ago I had this friend who got a girlfriend and he literally just vanished off the face of the world. They broke up every couple of months for just 3 or 4 days and during those days I had my friend back but it did get quite tiring. The constant fights and at the end of the day the friendship was one-sided. I was there for him but when I needed someone where was he ?. Anyway as time went on one night he asked me to go out for a drink (this time however they were NOT on a break) so I asked him,as I was already quite annoyed with him for basically forgetting about me apart when it suited him. Are you not out with your girlfriend tonight ? and his answer was just No,Why do you think I’m asking you ? …. Errm.. Sorry what ? That did it for me! I got so annoyed,obviously I didn’t go out that night nor was I there for him when they kept breaking up. Did I do the right thing ? Shouldn’t we be there for our friends no matter what ? ….But shouldn’t they think that question themselves ? I always say it takes 2!… As years have gone by more and more friends have obviously gotten in a routine with their partners and obviously have no time for there used to be “best friend”.

Recently my closest friend whom I speak to daily and go on holidays together, we basically get along like a married couple but in a friendship. Before you think to yourselves “Do you like her”? …NO! lol Well I do like her but as a sister,we are that close.Well this friend has recently started seeing someone and I’m just thinking the plans we had on going to travel here and there…Are they still going to happen? We literally were saying ” we are single and we make the most of it live life etc” however now that she’s seeing someone this all may change. Let me just add that I approved the guy she is seeing and I told her that he is literally the male version of her, so nice and innocent and to be honest she does deserve a nice guy like him to treat her well!. Now I’m in like a paralysed thought of Am I going to lose her ? , Are things going to change ? Am I being selfish for thinking this ? and this is why the whole term of “Friends Forever“ crossed my mind and made me question it.

Do we all not eventually move away from our friends and into relationships ? At a young age this is the goal for most people as it is what society imprints on us. So are friends really forever?  My answer is pure and simple. No. You may continue to chat here and there but things change,situations change and you won’t be as close as you once were and just because of that fact I also find it hard to trust my friends. Not only do I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone and everybody’s business but if friends move on can you still trust that you’re deepest secrets and thoughts will not be shared? I just think Hmm..Only person I can trust is myself really as the saying from the T.V series Pretty Little Liars goes ” Only 2 can keep a secret if 1 of them is dead” . Drastic but in my opinion true.

Well I would LOVE to hear your thoughts on this topic and maybe it will help me better myself. Please Like,Comment and Share

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Are We ALL Becoming Attention Seekers ? – My Thoughts !

Hey bloggers, I know it’s been a while and I have had this topic at the back of my mind for a couple of weeks now. 10 Years ago I suppose society was VERY different as to what it is today. Attention seekers worked harder to get their attention and noticed and fewer people wanted to be noticed. Do we realise that we are becoming attention seekers? I mean 10 years ago how would you grab someone’s attention without posting anything on any social network sites.

 

Are you an attention seeker? – I think we all are in one way or another. How many of you have Facebook or Twitter? Most if not all I’m sure and some of you will probably use other social networking sites like Tumbler etc. These social networking sites are designed in a way that makes us want to get noticed. On Facebook for example we “update our status” with the intentions for others to read it and later “Like” or Comment. Every day we post (Myself including) the little things everyone does in everyday life, things like the food we eat or what we drink on Facebook just so people will see and know what you’re doing. On Twitter I find people are more open (Myself Included) and people tend to share deeper thoughts even those that when posted on facebook may get a negative feedback.

 

Do we paint this pretty picture on Facebook? – I think most of us paint this mirage of ourselves on Facebook. We all want to be accepted by the majority of society so we post what we think will be “Liked” and accepted by others and with the hope that we will be, in return liked more by others and become that slightly more popular. I think we all post just what we want others to see obviously that is why we control it right? But don’t we all have darker thoughts? Not so nice thoughts that should be shared. After all Facebook does ask “What’s On Your Mind”, On many occasions I have posted an update saying “ Facebook keeps on asking me “What’s on my mind” but I’m scared if I post I will shock a lot of people!” Which I’m sure I will. At the end of the day we all seek acceptance by others and I think Social Networking sites like the ones I mentioned earlier play a bit part in it all. Maybe we don’t all realise it but I think it is getting worse. I am too a victim of this but a couple of weeks ago I was having a discussion with a friend who they claim they “don’t care what others think” So I pointed this out, we all use the edit features for the pictures, we all act as if we have this perfect life on facebook but behind that screen many of us have more insecurities than what we may know we have! Problem is, if we paint this picture too big how can we live up to it?

Hope I haven’t rumbles too much on this, Let me know your thoughts no matter how good or bad:) if you like please Like, Share & Comment!

 

Have a nice day

Am I THAT insecure ?

Hey bloggers , so my last post was how I promised I would be going back to the gym and so I did. I was rather excited to go for  a little workout especially since it had been so long and I usually feel bad if I eat a lot of junk food and just stay at home on the sofa. When I got to the gym I realised a lot of new faces around and they were rather young to,I’d say around 16-18 at the most but that’s fine anyone can go to the gym, doesn’t bother me at all right? Hmm maybe it did just a bit. I went to what I call the “abs section” which is basically an area with the mats and medicine balls and this area is literally next to some machines for the chest area. The group of young lads were all around this area using the machines and I was just there on the mat not being able to concentrate on my workout or even do it properly because I was so conscious of them being there. I just kept telling myself “Why should I care what they think of me or how I’m doing my workouts?”. Although that is easier said than done,this all did bother me as I was in such a good mood wanting to have a good workout and suddenly it all went down hill,I got up from the mat and just moved to another area of the gym where I felt more comfortable whereas in that area I kept looking down not wanting to lift my head up and I even turned down the volume on my music just in case I overheard a comment or even if they could hear my music and that might make them judge me even more.

I know I have always been insecure,not liking how I look and basically having low self-esteem. Lets just say on my Facebook profile you won’t find any pictures of me in front of a mirror doing a pose,not that I find anything wrong with that.If you are confident with yourself you should do it after all, do what you think is right and each to their own. I admire those who can take those pictures and actually look good in them. Thinking on what has happened I have become slightly more judgemental on myself which is against what I believe in. I’m not one to add this fake persona for the world to see, I am me and that is it really. I know everyone has some sort of insecurity,even those people who act like if they love themselves and nothing can break them down.

Wait a second … Maybe my insecurities were making me a bit paranoid and hyped up everything that was going on ? Maybe they weren’t taking a notice of me and if they were, Would their opinion of me affect my life in any way?. I think we are all craving social acceptance especially when we are in situations like having a workout and having groups of people next to you which might leave you a bit vulnerable. Maybe I should apply more of what I believe into my life, maybe I should become more accepting of who I am and not let judgements affect me. So here I will say ” I know I’m not the guy with the dreamy abs or bulging biceps but that is me”. Tomorrow I will head to the gym again and if it were to happen again all I can do is try my best not to let it affect me.

Thank you readers and I apologise if I ranted on a bit.

Are you insecure about yourself? Try to come out of it,whoever puts you down should not have a place in your heart or life! Time is precious and we should spend it with those who love us for who we are. Be better be you

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Diet + Hunger = Procrastination !

Hey bloggers! So most of you will have seen those funny pictures on Facebook which everyone seems to like..Literally!. Well I came across this one just now and it suits todays topic perfectly.
I have been sitting here hungry for a while now and all I can think about is “What can I eat? salad,fruits ? Nope,not me I was thinking Kebab or a burger”. Usually when I think that I say to myself “It’s okay I’ll go to the gym tomorrow” but when tomorrow comes I never seem to go and this has been going on for a couple of weeks now but seeing as the weather has been a little crap I have been using that as an excuse not to bother going. My most common excuses after the weather are “Going to have a haircut” or my favourite “Need to go to the shop after work” even thou I’ll only spend 5 mins in that shop and I know I can easily make it to the gym after that.

Summer is round the corner which means the pressure is on to get into shape. A couple of friends of mine are actually doing the Insanity Body Work-Out which is a high intense work out DVD and it’s actually adding to the pressure!! AHHHHH WHAT TO DOO!!! Well I will write it here in writing for all to see that I will be going to the gym this coming week (Week commencing Monday 11th March 2013)…But for now I am going to heat up a very nice oven pizza and enjoy every last calorie!!

Hope you enjoyed this little rant of mine Like ,Share & Comment ! Are any of you doing any work-outs or diets? Leave a comment below maybe it can inspire me to do more

Mothers Day :)

Hey bloggers So today is Mothering Sunday (A.K.A. Mothers Day)…As you all know it’s the fourth Sunday of lent……Just kidding I was actually reminded that it was this Sunday like 4 days ago?. I knew it was in March just forgot it was so early on!.

A little paragraph dedicated to my mum and why she (as many other mothers) deserve this day.! My mum has always taken care of people all of her life,from an early age she helped my uncles and aunties get ready for school and even started working at an early age. She has basically been working all of her life before she got unwell but even at the beginning of her not feeling so well which was when my father left she had to work extra hard to support me and my sisters and not to mention the debt my father had left behind. My mum has been more than just a mum but a dad and a friend there to put a smile on your face during those bad days. She has never really treated herself to anything as money went towards bills and food, never did she spent any money on clothes for herself or the latest mobile or gadget. So when people say “why do mothers deserve a day just for them?” I will tell them this and more. One day where they shouldn’t cook or clean,one day where they should feel special!. A couple of years ago we were going through a bad time and I just made her a personal video which I planned to give to her on Mothers day but then I also thought why wait for that special day?. If you want to express something don’t wait for a special day to do it, you can make any day special. I’m actually glad that I showed her on an ordinary day because she did not expect it and her reaction for me was absolutely priceless!!

So Mothers Day 2013 – I have bought my mum Yankee Candles (If you don’t know what they are click on the name it will take you to their website,they are these AMAZING candles. They aren’t cheap but they really do smell nice) my mum is actually obsessed with them. Not quite sure if the website will ship to where you live,I had  to buy them at a local shop (I don’t live in the UK despite the UK website lol). Also got my mum a clock which says MUM oh and last but not least, I was actually quite shocked to see this… A Mothers Day card on behalf from a DOG! YES!!! So I also got her a card on behalf of Chico with a little
key ring with a westie on it. To see who my dog is just click on the name Chico and it will  re-direct you to my earlier post . My sisters and I are also going to take her out for a nice Sunday roast which also happens to be her favourite meal.

So bloggers what have you done for your mothers on this special day ? Leave a little comment underneath and do share .

Have a nice day – spoil your mothers x x

Meet My Dog ! & Proof A Dog Could Be Your Best Friend !

Hey Bloggers I don’t think I have mentioned this before!! …Actually can’t believe I haven’t mentioned this before!! But…I am a big animal lover <3!. I Myself have a little dog called “Chico” (It’s a Spanish slang word used to describe something small). Chico is a West Highland Terrier (Also known as a Westie). I was never meant to get a westie I was meant to adopt a dog from someone who could not take care of her puppies however her daughter got too attached to the dog and decided to drop out last minute. I was devastated, I really set my hopes high and made plans for the new addition to the family. My sister then went to a shop and bought  a small westie which was probably the best outcome ever. I suffer from asthma and apparently terriers don’t shed fur and their fur are “human Like” so they don’t affect my allergies or asthma!. I remember the first night he spent in my house (6 years ago now) he slept down stairs and in the morning we couldn’t find him ANYWHERE! Poor Chico had spent the night sleeping under the sofa. I could speak about my dog FOREVER -really is a mans best friend . Here is a little picture of Chico…

Chico

Why introduce my dog to you now you ask ? ….Well…..I saw this article online about dogs and their owners having a #cheeky nap together after they had been practising and taking part in a dog show!. I love when me and my dog fall asleep on the sofa or bed!  Have a look at the dogs  HERE!..

Are You An Animal Lover ? Share your stories with your loved pets or even send me a  little picture of them via my “Contact Page” and I may use it in a future post

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Singelton on Valentines …Who’s with me ?

Morning bloggers!!… Happy Valentine’s day!! Wonderful day ….for those in love that is. A day where everyone in a relationship is basically forced to show their love buy buying presents and cards. Why wait for a specific day to show your love for someone reminds me of Mothers day. I love my mum everyday why should I wait for a specific day to show it so a couple of years ago I gave her presents and a video that I made weeks before Mothers Day! Don’t wait to show your love …

So let me put a positive spin for us single people on this lovely day… Single on Valentines? NO PROBLEM it’s actually better for us. We save money on buying presents but not only that we can buy ourselves a present!. Perfect excuse to spend some money on whatever we want but we usually don’t want to get… Although I must say try and avoid social networks, especially Facebook!  – I’m more of a twitter person myself but it will be Love everywhere. So enjoy this day you single people

Its The Thought That No Longer Counts.

Hi bloggers so a mini blog post today called “It’s The Thought That Not Longer Counts”. What does that mean ? Let me explain what I mean by it.

In the past have you ever heard before your birthday or Christmas “It’s the thought that counts”?. Yes, I have plenty of times. Coming from a family that struggled to get by in the early years we learned to love every present we got. Be it a pair of socks to a new console game. We appreciated everything we got and had and never asked for expensive gifts as we knew that would just add the stress to my mother.Now that I work I obviously buy the presents for everyone and I found it very stressful because in today’s society the thought no longer counts. Materials count, I found an old Yo-Yo the other day clearing out my cupboards and I thought to myself “I wonder if kids nowadays will know what these are”. Buying gifts for little kids or friends my own age has proven to be a challenge,although finding the perfect gift for them maybe the value of the gift was just £10 so I found myself having to buy something else….Which then meant I had to buy something else for others as I couldn’t possibly give one gift to one person yet another receive two or more presents.

Some of you may know I had a minor operation ( I wrote about it in an earlier blog post) so my gift shopping was held up and I know find myself in a situation where I have bought some people more than others and I started to think ” Well who cares, They all have a gift and that is what matters right? Isn’t it the thought that counts”…. I found myself laughing to myself after thinking that because everyone now asks for iPhone’s,iPads and gifts which are worth more than £100. The thought no longer counts but the quantity and quality of gifts. I’m going to sound older than what I am ( and I’m only 21) but kids today do not appreciate things at all.

Try to restore this in your kids & If you already do so… You’re one of the rare good parents and instill good morals in your kids Xxx

We survived but the fight is not over ….

Let me just say Congrats for surviving this “doomsday”. Glad to see that we all live another day to tell the tale and we can carry on with our lives. Wonder how the extremists are feeling at this moment in time. Annoyed because their belief of the end was wrong or relieved because they are still alive, mixed emotions I suppose. As I mentioned in my previous post I do believe that something huge is going to happen in the world, maybe not  today or tomorrow but someday something will change life as we know it. Could it be another World War? or natural disasters we won’t know until that day is here.

Relieved that the 21st December 2012 is over and we survived ? Oh I wouldn’t be because, Yes we didn’t die but nothing has changed and it still is a world where only the fittest will survive. I don’t mean toned abs and bulging biceps but mentally devious and backstabbing. As in this day and age our best friends could just be a simple disguise of our worst enemy. I warn you bloggers and readers trust few but befriend many. Devious plan right? Well after all we all want to survive this cruel world and there’s a lot of people who are set in destroying others and their happiness. I’m a true believer of Karma the way I think of it is “What goes up must come down…eventually and when it does the force of gravity will hit you 10 times worse”. I beg you not to do anything with ill intentions but simply befriend your enemies and love them like any other. Not only are you annoying them even more which may lead them do worse things behind your back but you’re also giving our good friend karma more to add to the delivery package when it returns to sender .

Now enough of the planning all in all it really is Survival Of The Fittest in more ways than one and you all want to make sure you can run just a bit just in case of a disaster .

Sorry if this post is a bit too erm… dark ? but after all I have to post about what I’m truly feeling and hopefully it helps you too.

 

 

Have a nice evening Xx

AhHhHhH Its The End OF THE WORLD!!!!!!!!!!!!! Or is it ;)

Grab your children,pets and ALL the food you can get and ?. RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN ?

Seeing as this will be tomorrows topic and I’m pretty sure it’s invading your Facebook home page and Twitter news feed I thought  I might aswell give my little intake about it…

 

They say the “Mayan Calendar” is set to end on the 21st December 2012 which would mean the end to the world as we know it. I heard the Mayans predicted the last Ice Age to?. The Mayans are going to be strongly criticised if the world doesn’t really end tomorrow (21st December 2012) although I have recently read that they have never actually said that the world will end on such a date. Are they backing down now ? Maybe they truly didn’t predict the end of the world but on one of their tapestries a crocodile is squirting alot of water out and people have linked this picture with the current floods in the UK and the devastating hit of hurricane Sandy in New York. So is the world really going to end ? If the Government knew would they inform people creating havoc everywhere?. After all if they could they would save themselves and their families right?. I think this whole concept have driven some people over the edge,across the US people have bought bomb shelters and stocked up on food and water just in case something huge were to happen. Many people laugh but what if it were to happen ?.

Do I believe the world will end tomorrow ?. Simple answer is No. However I do believe that maybe not tomorrow but someday something huge and catastrophic will occur because if history has taught me anything is that every so often something has to change the world. Earth has lived through Ice Ages,terrible floods, natural disasters and even World Wars. My granny used to say every 40 years or so a World War or something big had to happen because something had to lower the world’s population and the fact that it isn’t happening it’s actually quite frightening. unfortunately such events will happen again and who knows maybe asteroids actually do hit earth but as to when it will happen,well that’s a secret that none of us will know so I suppose that is why we should live our lives to the fullest!.

 

If this is my last message thank to all who have shared my blog,liked my links and commented on my posts you made my days brighter. If you wish to contact me privately you know how to do so

 

Peace XoXo